Welcome Recovery Friends, Seekers, and New Visitors,
I came across a new “Facts” website yesterday, and read that out of the millions of addicted or problem gamblers, 50% of them are Women. It really didn’t surprise me much, because most gamblers anonymous meetings I have attended, most members were women.
The other piece of this alarming fact that I read, was a large chunk of the numbers of addicted gamblers are also now “High school age & College age young adults”! If I was a parent, this is just “Unacceptable”! And this group seems to be playing card games like, Poker, Blackjack, and tournaments in college dorms.
“This goes to say, “Compulsive Addicted Gambling” has NO bounds on who it may touch, and lives can be “Destroyed” by uncontrolled gambling.
NO, I don’t have any ill feelings towards those who can “Gamble” normally, I just want to help educate the mass’s that there are “Many” of us out here who can not, including myself. It’s why I wrote my book.”
So I thought I’d “Share” another Excellent Recovery Blog, a woman who also was “Touched” by this cunning disease. She too wrote her story of how compulsive addicted gambling wreaked havoc on her life to.
Please meet, “Kim Pottle” and her book, “Numb No More”…………
Numb No More by Kim Pottle was inspired by True Life.
Here is a little more about “Kim” and her Recovery Blog…..
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I am a Certified Life Coach and Author who writes about life as seen through the eyes of a recovering compulsive gambler.
I used gambling as an escape from my pain and troubles. I experienced the rush and despair that gambling brings. When I was playing video poker I felt like I could finally do something I was good at. It brought me a sense of pride and became a comfortable space for me to exist.
Until it turned on me. The frenzy of the chase took over. Even when I won I hardly ever walked away with money. I couldn’t think about much other than when I was going to play next.
I began to beat myself up for my losses, for my wins, for going to play and for being such a loser. Any excuse to belittle myself was good enough for me. I would often wonder what was wrong with me.
Eventually I got tired of being so sick and tired. I knew I had a problem. I wasn’t sleeping, eating or taking care of myself or my relationships. I was blowing through cash like it was nothing.
I knew I needed help.
I read books, went to Gamblers Anonymous (GA), saw a counselor, attended an outpatient program and tried a variety of other things.
There was no easy answer for me. It took me years to get into this mess and I wasn’t getting out of it over night.
I wish I could tell you that there was a defining moment for me to snap out of my fantasy land.
But I can’t. I “quit” numerous times. I became stronger each time I did. I learned a lot along the way. Chances are good I understand what you’re going through.
Nobody understands a gambler like a fellow gambler.
This blog and the book “Numb No More” share my journey with you, past and present. I believe it is now my life purpose to help gamblers live better lives.
I continue to learn and practice my growth. I am choosing to Live my Life with Feeling.
My Commitment to You:
- I am here to support you without guilt, judgment or shame.
- I am here through success and “failure.”
- I honor where you are in life. I know you are the one who gets to make your own choices.
- I am providing you a safe place to land.
- I am open to you and available for you
Here now is one of my “Favorite” blog posts of Kim’s!
Do I Really Want To FEEL This?
by Kim Pottle
Maybe you can relate to this: Sometimes I convince myself that life just sucks.
There are days I don’t want to get out of bed. Those are the days when gambling used to be like a magic eraser for me. Maybe you drink, or pop pills or veg out in front of the TV or computer. We all make choices, right? We have the choice of whether or not we want to continue living in our sad and lonely place. I have occasionally been known to carry mine around with me for years. I am learning to change the way I’m feeling into something much better for me.
Most days I do pretty well with it. The difficult thing for me has been to decide to actually feel where I’m at. In my past, and presently more often than I’d like to admit, whenever I was hurting I would escape into a fantasy land. My destructive escape of preference has been gambling and video poker with surfing the internet at a close second. I didn’t have to feel anything and I could distract myself long enough to get me through the day without crashing.
It turns out that doesn’t actually help the situation any.
I have made the commitment to myself to live my life and sit in my stuff instead of running away from it. Sometimes that really sucks, especially at first. I find myself thinking that it would be so much easier to numb out and hope that my uncomfortable feelings will go away. Sometimes I take the easy way out and go back to my old habits. I’m not perfect. For the most part I honor myself and do the right thing. Each time it gets better and more natural. Along the way I’ve made a major discovery…
Those feelings don’t go away on their own. It feels like every emotion I ran away from was stuffed in a closet (a rather large closet…Mariah Carey style). Eventually the door starts to bulge and random slimy feelings start oozing out. One way or another they want my attention. And they are willing to wait.
The things I thought I had gotten rid of years ago are still in that stupid closet. Now that I have come back to reality it’s time to look inside. Sometimes I get buried with my stuff. The goal for me is to remember to look at it one piece at a time.
One step at a time, one emotion at a time.
When it actually works I do my best to be proud of myself and remember that it’s a step in the right direction. When I get caught up in the drama and run away I give myself a break and remember that there will be other times to practice. I have found that the more I beat myself up the worse my situation gets because I get the F it all attitude.
Here are some Keys to Success:
- Take it one step at a time – one emotion, experience, memory, etc.
- Look at it lovingly…and let it go (here are some suggestions to help with that)
- Repeat as often as you need – you may not feel better right away.
- Don’t force yourself look at something you aren’t ready for.
- Give yourself a break!
- Reward yourself for a job well done.
I hope this helps your life in some way. I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please feel free to share with your friends as well. Thanks! Kim Pottle……
**I think the reason I was so taken by “Kim’s” Blog was that I could relate to all of what she wrote about. Even the her book title grabbed ME! Because it was what my “Ultimate Goal” was each time I went out and gambled. The trigger could have been my past “Hurts & Pain” resurfacing again, a disappointment in my life at the time, a death, or just an “URGE” that came out of NO where to go spend a few hours to escape and “Numb out” from the feelings!**
Here is just ONE Review of many to know Kim’s book and Blog help many!
From Amazon Books:
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
Numb No More: Simple Solutions to Achieve Freedom from Habits and Addictions is a wonderful book and I highly recommend it to all of you who are compulsive gamblers. I assure you that you will be able to relate to the author and her struggles. Kim Pottle also has a website where she continues to write articles to help compulsive gamblers. I have sent several emails to her and she actually responded to me. Kim is a wonderful, caring person who has a lot of great advice to offer you in this book. Don’t hesitate to buy it!..
*What more do you need to know that Kim’s book and her Recovery/Coaching Blog is a Great Resource. I hope you’ll take time to visit her, and READ her book. So please, as always, let her know Author, Catherine Lyon sent YOU!*
God Bless All!
Catherine Lyon xoxo
OF COURSE I CAN’T END WITHOUT A COUPLE “FUNNY’S”………
I Can Has Cheezburger?
I Got a Sandwich, I Got a Sandwich!
This is how Cats Breakdance
*HAVE A GREAT DAY EVERYONE*!! *Cat*