Hello and Welcome Recovery Friends,
Today I wanted to share a very special person in my life that I have been BLESSED to call friend. I also call her my “adopted mama” as well. She is so full of wisdom, has a huge heart and always know what to say when you feeling down. I learn so much from her. She has been blogging for a little over a year on her Self-Help blog here on WordPress. Through her blog, she has helped give advice to many of us to get through life’s “bumpy rides” . . . .
I know I am grateful for all her posts of inspiration and uplifting humor at times too! And her guest post today isn’t any different. So without further a do, meet Marilyn Fowler Author, Writer and Blogger. ( https://selfhelpbymarilyn.wordpress.com )
Life Comes In Packages. Learn How To Choose The Right Ones For You.
“What is beauty or ugliness but a false front that prompts man to make assumptions rather than delving deeper.” ~Kristin
What do you do when you receive a package? Do you spend time examining it, shaking it, and assuming what it might contain? And does the wrapping affect your attitude about what’s in it? Kind of like Forrest Gump and his box of chocolates. Well, that’s what we sometimes do with life situations. If a situation doesn’t come in a pretty package, we may assume it’s not what we want and discard it, missing something wonderful wrapped inside.
Many years ago, I took a job with a mental health team in a county jail setting, not the kind of work I wanted. But I took it until I could find one wrapped in a prettier package. My attitude wasn’t productive until I began to open the package and notice the many unexpected rewards in my work. I gradually realized I was in the right place, and spent 10 years in a job I loved. I would have missed that wonderful experience had I not looked past my initial assumptions.
The packaging can work the opposite way too. A certain situation in your life may seem to be dripping in pretty tinsel, so you accept it with great anticipation, only to find it’s last week’s trash. I learned that lesson. It was the dead of winter when my heat and air unit went out. Freezing. Then came a fast talking salesman glittering in fancy talk and promises of instant warmth. The package he presented brought visions of heat melting the ice from my frozen toes, and I never thought about opening the package to see what was really inside until I realized I’d been financially taken.
“Untested assumptions and lazy habits of thought can be shown up, once put in a spotlight of a different hue.”
Almost every day we’re confronted with something new, and our favorite way to deal with unfamiliar people and situations is to assume the nature of what we encounter. But clinging to assumptions with old ways and ideas can sometimes bring results we don’t want. It’s wise to look closer with different eyes. There may be a prize in the Cracker Jack box…or not. But you have to look inside to find out.
I once met someone who’s habit of giving me advice got on my nerves. But looking deeper, I saw a kind, loving side to her. So I ignored her bothersome habit and enjoyed her other qualities. And we became close friends.
Situations: Whether its work, finances, a place to live, repair needs, activities…whatever, don’t make snap judgments. Look past appearances to the whole picture, and know what’s involved. Get used to checking inside the package before you decide to keep it or let it go, so you don’t end up with something you don’t want.
Summary: Choices influence the quality of your life, and you want to make good choices. So when possible, sufficiently research and learn what’s behind the scenes. You will at times make mistakes. We all do. But by opening the package before you choose will minimize those mistakes. And your life will flow more harmoniously.
I wish you clear vision and happy results . . .
Marilyn Fowler, Author
“I’m a retired Licensed Clinical Social Worker/psychotherapist. My professional experience includes Mental Health Team Leader, then Director of Mental Health Services in the Duval County Jail in Jacksonville, Florida; coordinating Mental Health Services in nursing homes, working on in-patient units, and in private practice for a number of years. I teach a class at the University of North Florida on The Influence of Childhood Messages on Adult Life, I belong to Chat Noir Writers Circle, and I write a self-help blog posts to help others live a better well-balanced life! My memoir, Silent Echoes, was published a few years ago, and I’m now working on “Me and Granmama in the Hill Country” in southern dialect with a video on now on YouTube: http://youtu.be/R4EGPkKtRBk My stories have appeared in several magazines and a book entitled When God Spoke To Me. I’m active in my church, and I believe that a sense of humor is a blessing to be used often. Life should be” .. .. ..