How About Planning A Cool Summer Sober Party…

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Planning a Sober Party That’s Actually Cool
By: Guest Writer, Darci Maxwell


Just because you’re sober doesn’t mean that your social life has gone out the window.  You can host sober parties that are both fun and enjoyable, sometimes even more enjoyable than the typical party scene.  It can seem daunting to pull something off that is exciting yet alcohol or drug free, but it is possible.  Read on to learn tips and tricks on how to throw the perfect sober party.

Let Guests Know

Make sure that your guests know that you are hosting a sober party, and that it’s not just a BYOB party.  Nothing is more frustrating than showing up to a party expecting there to be booze and finding it dry, so make sure that your guests know that there won’t be any there.  It may be wise to host a brunch party or early lunch date so that people won’t be expecting alcohol anyway.

Prepare Mocktails

You don’t have to let your drinks suffer just because they don’t have alcohol in them.  You can prepare delicious mocktails that taste almost like the real thing quite easily.  This blog breaks out common substitutes for popular alcohols so that you can still have the unique flavor of the alcohol but still stay sober.  You can also mix serve smoothies, infused water, flavored sodas, exotic teas and coffees, and flavored lemonades.

Provide Food

A party doesn’t need to be about the drinks, you can serve plenty of fun food to make up for the lack of alcohol.  Decide if you want to serve a full meal or just hors d’oeuvres, and then decide what you want to serve.  You can have an exotic cheese tasting, a chocolate bar, have a DIY nacho bar, or have everyone bring something to share.  Other popular favorite include: pizza, tacos, sliders, cookies, brownies, etc.


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Play Music

Sometimes you just need a little music to lighten the mood and pump up the party.  Create a playlist of your favorite party jams, or you can hook up your phone and let your party guests pick their favorite songs.  Just try to avoid any songs that are a trigger, and don’t be afraid to turn off any songs that your friends choose if you need to.

Keep The Invite List Small

If you invite too many people, the higher the chances that someone will miss the sober memo and bring alcohol or drugs to the party.  If you keep the invite list small, it will be easier to control the atmosphere of the party.  Try to keep the invite list between 20 and 40 people, and assume that ⅔ of the people invited will attend. Try to invite people who are on the same page as you, whether they are also recovering addicts, or who are your sober role models.

Don’t Forget to Introduce People

There may be people at your party who don’t know each other, so be a good host and make sure that you introduce everyone.  You may want to play a get to know you game, or walk around introducing people and starting conversations so that your guests get to know each other without feeling awkward.

Do Something
Instead of just hanging out at someone’s house, plan to actually do something at your party. Rent a bounce house, crack out a board game or two, play lawn games, set up a photo booth, play charades, etc.  Bring plenty of ideas of things that you could do, and then let your party guests pick which activity they’d like to do.

Pick a Theme

If your party doesn’t fall around a birthday or holiday, it may be fun to host a themed party.  You can pick a decade and invite people over (like the 1970’s or 1920’s), or you can get a Host A Murder Mystery Dinner Party kit and have a fun night focused on the theme rather than on alcohol or drugs ….

Help Them Leave

It can sometimes be hard to kick guests out at the end of the night, but there are some things you can do to make it a little easier to leave.  Start by changing the music to something slow, then grab a trash bag and start cleaning up.  Your guests should take the hint and start clearing out.  If you have any leftover food, you can ask someone to take it home with them.  If they still won’t leave, let them know that you have things to do and that you would appreciate it if they would leave.

Catherine Townsend-Lyon

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