Why is Gambling Addiction The Hardest Form of Addiction To Beat? Is It The Denial & Lying? Or Is It Really All Just Fun and Games?

There could be thousands of reasons why people adopt gambling, and even psychologists don’t know why people gamble? It started as fun for some persons, and for some, it was meant to escape their sorrows. But in the end, the result was always the same; Gambling Stops Being a Diversion and Becomes an Addiction. 


~Catherine Townsend-Lyon Author and Experienced Gambling Advocate of Recovery


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A while back I came across what looked like a new Gambling Addiction and Recovery blog that seemed to really never transpire. I happened to visit again and the same original first post was still up, but not much activity after. That is the “nature of the beast” when it comes to addicted gambling. It seems sometimes the addiction may win over just trying to “will it away” and it won’t work very well.

But then? EUREKA! More New Posts Began To Be Posted! And many of Uri’s posts are not only informative? They are very revealing to the facts that Gambling Addiction truly is the hardest addiction to KICK! So, my deepest hope for all who visit me will take some time and go visit Uri and read a few of his posts about his recovery journey.

He speaks very openly as he shares his gambling and his recovery hopes and challenges. One that is really difficult and will share a little of his post is about LYING to his partner. For me? That was all about being in DENIAL.

Denial is like lying to ourselves that we do have a gambling problem, and why true surrender is so hard to come to that place. So here is a little of Uri’s post about “LYING” to his partner, and then you can finish reading his new post… https://gambling-addictions.com/2021/06/05/why-i-cant-stop-lying/

~Catherine Lyon

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“I am not upset that you lied to me; I am upset that from now on I can never believe you” ~Friedrich Nietzsche


After being more than 2 years free from gambling activities, I noticed that I still have a huge problem with lying to my partner. It became a habit and somehow I can’t stop lying to my partner. Someone once said to me that for as long as you lied to your partner, expect them not to believe you for the same time after you stop lying. It will hurt when they question you when you are telling the truth, you will be surprised because you never even thought to lie.

This advice helped me to think that did I achieve anything worthwhile by lying or cheating. I started thinking that what I am hiding from her? Why I am so insecure? Why my self-respect is at rock bottom? Why I am addicted to lying? Sooner I realized that lying is like a slippery dangerous slope with nothing good at the bottom but misery and empty life.

We all lie in different situations in our lives. We all have our reasons for lying, it may be to escape punishment in our childhood. When we grow up, we lie to get attention or sympathies and some even create stories to set friends against each other or get others in trouble. It is an expression of being afraid, what others will think, afraid of facing the reality. We want to show people that we are better than others and reflect the weakness of our character. This could be the result of low self-esteem, fear of rejection, desire to please, or any other nuanced reasons.


A liar justifies or makes stories to cover up something he has done wrong. To cover the first lie, another lie is required and this leads to an endless chain of lies. I had no idea about my case, why I was manipulating different situations to lie with my partner. Sooner I realized that I am a habitual liar, I tried to discover the root of my behavior, why I am doing and what I am avoiding. I thought that if I want to spend the rest of my life with my partner, I must avoid this habit of lying to restore the level of trust in our relationship. 

If you are constantly lying to your dear ones and you are not able to do anything about it, then you don’t want to change. You cannot change what has developed in you for years. If someone matters to you in your life then you have to be truthful or else you will end up losing not only that person but your importance, your respect and the likeness you were trying to create will go away in a moment and will never come back.

All the lies which are still covered can come crashing down on your head at any time. You will live in constant fear of the truth being discovered and expose you which creates a bad effect on your nerves. Stop living in dream world with a fake identity. Get out of your unreal world and start living in present rather than the past or future.

A person who often tells fibs will never have trustworthy friends and will not be loved by anyone. Life is not only judged by a rich lifestyle, fluent language ability, or branded clothes. It is measured by the number of faces who simile when they hear your name. Analyze your life and try to find how it has impacted your life and others around you. Somewhere or somehow it has broken a lot of innocent hearts or brought tears to the eyes of your loved ones.

Do you think you feel happy about it?

How To Stop Lying?

Start thinking, why you want to quit lying, think about the bad things associated with being a liar. I am not an expert by any means but you must ask yourself why you are lying? Why are you not comfortable with the truth? Learn to appreciate things you have in life and be satisfied with your family, friends, and your surroundings.

But what makes sense to me is that instead of trying “not to lie anymore” which is difficult to achieve in one day, try to focus on making little but sturdy progress. Think to yourself why you’re lying? Why are you not comfortable with the truth? Is it because you are not confident? Or on the other hand you fear reality?

You can’t change the past, the past is immutable. But as long as you understand that the time of yore was something that you’ve learned, and then it won’t haunt you as much.

Few imperative things to consider while struggling to come out of this habit:

  • Never give up! People have thrived in breaking the nastiest & most addictive habits, you can do the same!
  • Change is going on in little- often not noticeable steps. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t observe changes immediately, YOU ARE CHANGING!
  • There will be setbacks. There is no way to accomplish a goal without failing on the way. Remember: failing doesn’t mean to stop struggling and starting all over again; you rewired your brain by fighting your habit & it will become easier & easier until it will go away!

  • NOW I hope you’ll go and read “The Rest Of The Story” by Uri… https://gambling-addictions.com/2021/06/05/why-i-cant-stop-lying/


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More Informative Articles and Posts:

https://www.beforeyoubet.org/10-common-lies-compulsive-gamblers-tell/

https://www.beforeyoubet.org/the-quiz/

https://gambling-addictions.com/2021/04/22/gamblings-impact-on-families/


Finally, We Are Coming Out COVID & That’s Great For My Mental Health. A Re-share Article That Is More Important Today. My Mental Health Matters & Yours Does Too…

Finally, We Are Coming Out COVID & That’s Great For My Mental Health. A Re-share Article That Is More Important Today. My Mental Health Matters & Yours Does Too…

The Mind Can Be a Scary Place 

Ever wonder what happens in the mind of Stephen King, or Stanley Kubrick? Or the thoughts in the mind of a serial killer? These are areas that most people would never venture into. It’s too scary. It’s too dangerous. But danger is in the eye of the beholder. It’s a reflection of our life experience, individual biases and perception. But as we all remain indoors, the confines of our own minds can be the greatest danger.

As people, our outward actions toward the world reflect our own mindset, individual biases, and our outlook on the world. If that outlook is positive, we tend to see the world in a positive light and consequently treat people and situations with that positivity. The converse is also true. If, because of our life experience or chemical imbalance, we have a negative or pessimistic world view, we view the world through that lens. It’s how we think, act, and speak. It attracts or detracts others to or from us. How do mental disorders alter that world view?

~Gravitate Online (Dot Com)


The Different Mental Disorders

For individuals dealing with depression or bipolar disorder, the mind can be a very scary place. Many people are undiagnosed with depression or anxiety. In the U.S. two-thirds of all cases of depression are undiagnosed. That means that they are not getting the proper help or medication to help them see the world without a dark shroud. Through their prism, they see the world in a dark, negative and suspicious way when in reality may not be the case.

Unfortunately, this mental strife can sometimes lead to drug abuse and addiction. Teenagers and young adults are especially susceptible to this unfortunate reality which is why proper mental health resources in their in-person or online education are imperative.

There are more types of depression than most people realize. According to https://www.healthline.com/these are some of the different depressive disorders:

Persistent depressive disorder

This is chronic low-level depression less severe than major depression and lasts two years or longer. This is accompanied by constant feelings of deep and dark sadness and hopelessness, as well as symptoms like indecisiveness, low energy and fatigue.

At times, this depression is spurred by aging. When family is out of the house, and estate planning decisions are to be made, it can have an effect on an individual’s sense of longevity. This, of course, is all part of a mental disorder that can have quite an effect on an individual’s day-to-day.


Bipolar disorder

Another type of depression is bipolar disorder or manic-depressive disorder. It involves the episode of a manic, a heightened state of being or over-energized mood. These episodes may be followed by episodes of dark deep depression. Huge swings from high to low and sometimes back again. It is the very manic highs paired with the low depressive state that determines the type of bipolar disorder is diagnosed.


Postpartum depression

As much as 80% of new mothers experience the “baby blues” following delivery. Symptoms include sadness, mood swings, depression, withdrawal, lack of appetite, and negative thoughts. According to the American Psychological Association, about 10 to 15 percent of U.S. women have a depressive episode within three months of childbirth. and fatigue and typically pass within a week or two.

This is caused by the fluctuation of hormones following childbirth, combined with lack of sleep, and the stresses of caring for an infant. If these symptoms stay longer than a couple weeks and escalate in severity, it may be a hint of a deeper issue.

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Seasonal depression

Many experience feelings of depression when seasons change. This is known as seasonal affective disorder. Up to 5% of the U.S. population (16,500,000) experience seasonal depression every year. Seasonal affective disorder is typically initiated at the beginning of autumn and lasts throughout the winter, during the dark and cold months of the year.

Psychotic depression

If any of these depressive situations are accompanied by paranoia, hallucinations or delusions, it is an indication of a major issue known as psychotic depression. This condition is rare. A quarter of patients admitted to a hospital due to depression actually have psychotic depression. The extreme cases are incapacitated and may need to be admitted to long-term hospitalization.


Natural treatments

Many depression diagnoses are tied to an actual chemical imbalance in the brain and must be managed with medication. Some less severe conditions may be managed, at least in part, through more natural means.


These include the following:
Physical exercise. The endorphins released in the brain during physical exercise can have long term positive benefits for depression.

Healthy diet. Eating fresh, clean, healthy food can boost positive vibes in the body and can be a helpful step in battling depression.

Good sleep. The power of good sleep is beneficial for all people, especially those with depression.
Supplements. Natural remedies like fish oils and folic acid have been known to help individuals with depression. However, when using natural supplements check with your physician.


Positive mental thoughts

Fighting depression can be hard work. A lot of the work is mental, challenging your negative self-talk and changing how you think. Individuals with depression leap to the worst possible conclusions in many scenarios. Challenging those conclusions and replacing them with positive ones can help make depression just a little brighter.

Positive self-thoughts maybe act as the light switch that transforms a person’s negative outlook from continuous darkness into a much brighter view of reality. This can lead to a happier and more rewarding life.


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Medications
Many Americans that suffer some form of depression, live perfectly normal and healthy lives with the help from the advances in pharmaceuticals. Working with a doctor to find the proper medication and dosage can change the life of an individual with depression.

We all strive to make the world a better place. But for some, this is more difficult because of internal personal turmoil. For people to treat others in a way that makes the world a better place, they need to feel that way about themselves. Helping those with a chemical imbalance to see the world through a brighter prism has exponential benefits to society. So, never be afraid to explore all your options.

By small means, great things are possible.~Catherine Lyon, Advocate


Visit my friends of SAMHSA for help and options for treatment, information, and much more!


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Who We Are

Learn more about the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-treatment


The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) that leads public health efforts to advance the behavioral health of the nation and to improve the lives of individuals living with mental and substance use disorders, and their families.

Vision

To provide leadership and resources – programs, policies, information and data, funding, and personnel – advance mental and substance use disorder prevention, treatment, and recovery services in order to improve individual, community, and public health.

Mission

SAMHSA’s mission is to reduce the impact of substance abuse and mental illness on America’s communities.

Last Updated

Last Updated: 05/05/2021

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Find Help and Treatment

The National Helpline provides 24-hour free and confidential referrals and information about mental and/or substance use disorders, prevention, treatment, and recovery in English and Spanish.

SAMHSA’s National Helpline
800-662-HELP (4357)
TTY: 800-487-4889

For additional information on finding help and treatment options, visit www.samhsa.gov/find-treatment.

General Questions

For general questions about SAMHSA, including information about mental and substance use disorders:

SAMHSAInfo@samhsa.hhs.gov
877-SAMHSA-7 (726-4727)
TTY: 800-487-4889

My Recovery Guest: Self-Help Author, Marilyn Fowler: What Is Your Recovery and Life Telling You? And Do You Like What You’re Creating?

You can live your whole life not realizing that what you’re looking for is right in front of you.”  ~David Nicholls

Recently I had a birthday, and that’s always a time for a one year check up to look at where I’ve been, where I am now, where I want to go, and if I stayed on track with last years directions. But that procedure is not enough to look closely at a life and how it’s being lived. Life is a daily experience and needs daily attention to be the life you want it to be. You wouldn’t drive your car on a journey without checking a map now and then to avoid getting lost and having to find your way back to the highway. So when was the last time you took a close look at your life?

“Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?” ~Bob Marley

Nobody’s life is sunshine all the time. We don’t expect that. We all have challenges, painful experiences, times when we want to run away for a while. But the overall quality of life can and should be generally happy and peaceful. Are you satisfied with your life? Could it be better? Think about it. Do you ever wake up in the morning dreading another day, wanting to get off the road for a while and find a peaceful rest stop along your journey? Are there times when all you see are clouds?

Today I was driving with dark ominous clouds overhead, and I hoped I’d reach my destination before the downpour. Then I noticed a break in the clouds with a beautiful clear blue sky where sunshine sparkled. How could both exist at the same time? But they did, and I got a message about life. Pay attention, and you see the whole picture. Would you like more sunshine in your future? You really can create it. And one of your best tools for growth is understanding your past.

“The best thing is looking back and realizing how good life is. If you don’t take the time to think about it and analyze it, you’ll never realize all the dots that are connected.”    ~Beyonce Knowles

The Past: All of your experiences in the past are connected to the rest of your life, for the past has been your teacher. Look back and remember good times and bad. Remember specific events and people, times you wish you could do over. Remember your feelings, your disappointments and happy surprises. Admit your weaknesses,and praise your strengths. Who were you back then? And how did all of that bring you to where you are now?

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Remember the moments of the past. Look forward to the promise of the future. But most of all, celebrate the present, for it is precious.”  ~Unknown

Present: The present is where you live your life…where decisions you make decide your past and your future, and where you can create miracles. So look closely at where you are now. What would you like to change, or keep, or expand upon, or create brand new? If you can’t change a situation, you can work on your response to it. Examinewhat you’ve learned from your past and how you can use it today. Look within and find that eternal, special essence that is you, and know you have all you need within to move forward.

“It seems to me that we have a lot of story yet to tell.” ~Walt Disney

Future: And what kind of story will you be telling in the future? According to Peter Drucker, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” And that’s all we can do, thebest we can at any given time. We check the past, live in today, and try to create a future we want. And as time passes, if we stay aware and vigilant, our tomorrows can bebetter than our todays.

So don’t wait for your birthday. Use time every day to monitor your progress, and make necessary changes as you go. You really are a miracle, capable of creating miracles. Make your journey whatever you want it to be. And be happy.

I wish you a miraculous journey!

Marilyn Fowler, Author/Writer

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About The Author:

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I’m a retired Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Psychotherapist. My professional experience includes Mental Health Team Leader, then Director of Mental Health Services in the Duval County Jail in Jacksonville, Florida;coordinating Mental Health Services in nursing homes, working on in-patient units,and in private practice for a number of years. I teach a class at the University of North Florida on The Influence of Childhood Messages on Adult Life, I belong to Chat Noir Writers Circle, and I write a self-help blog posts to help others live a better well balanced life!

My Memoir, Silent Echoes was published a wee few years ago, and I’m now working on “Me and Granmama in the Hill Country” in southern dialect with a video on now on Youtube: http://youtu.be/R4EGPkKtRBk  …

My stories have appeared in several magazines and a book entitled “When God Spoke To Me.” I’m active in my church, I enjoy blogging, and I believe that a sense of humor is a blessing to be used often. Life should be…..


Please Visit: Marilyn on her Amazon Author Page for all her Book!

 

A Message From “The White House & Our President, Barak Obama.” And National Day of Action from Gambling Addiction…

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A National Message From Our US President, Barak
Obama from “The White House.”

The White House
Office of the Press Secretary

For Immediate Release
August 31, 2016

“Presidential Proclamation – National Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery Month, 2016

NATIONAL ALCOHOL AND DRUG ADDICTION RECOVERY MONTH, 2016

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BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA

A PROCLAMATION

Every day, millions of Americans prove that recovery from alcohol and substance use disorders is possible — yet at the same time, millions more are struggling with the disease of addiction. These individuals are our family members, friends, and neighbors, and when they are not able to get the help they need, our communities and our country are not as strong as they can be. It is up to all of us to help our loved ones seek life-saving services when needed and steer them toward recovery. Throughout this month, we celebrate the successes of all those who know the transformative power of recovery, and we renew our commitment to providing the support, care, and treatment that people need to forge a healthier life.

Substance use disorder, commonly known as addiction, is a disease of the brain, and many misconceptions surrounding it have contributed to harmful stigmas that can prevent individuals from seeking the treatment they need. By treating substance use disorders as seriously as other medical conditions, with an emphasis on prevention and treatment, people can recover. This month’s theme is, “Join the Voices for Recovery: Our Families, Our Stories, Our Recovery!”. Focusing on the importance of family support throughout recovery, it invites families, loved ones, and other individuals to share their stories and triumphs in fighting substance use disorders to inspire others that may follow in their footsteps. I encourage all Americans looking for assistance to use the “Treatment Locator” tool at  www.SAMHSA.gov or call 1-800-662-HELP.

This disease can touch any American in any community, and my Administration has made combatting substance use disorders a priority. Under the Affordable Care Act, insurance companies must now cover substance use disorder services as essential health benefits. The Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act requires health plans that cover mental health and substance use disorder treatment to provide coverage that is comparable to that of medical and surgical care. Through our National Drug Control Strategy — a 21st-century approach to reducing drug use and its consequences — we have promoted evidence-based health and safety initiatives that aim to prevent drug use, increase opportunities for early intervention and integrated treatment in health care, and support recovery.

In response to our Nation’s opioid overdose epidemic, we are highlighting tools that can help reduce drug use and overdoses such as evidence-based prevention programs, prescription drug take-back events, medication-assisted treatment for people with opioid use disorders, and the overdose reversal drug naloxone. That is why, in my most recent budget proposal, I proposed investing $1 billion to expand access to treatment for prescription opioid misuse and heroin use. I will continue urging the Congress to fund treatment like I have proposed — because if they fund these efforts, we can help more individuals across our country seek help, complete treatment, and sustain recovery.

During National Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery Month, let us thank health care professionals, support groups, and all those dedicated to helping individuals in need find assistance and reclaim their lives. Let us continue working to address substance use disorders in our communities and promote the health, safety, and prosperity of the American people.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim September 2016 as National Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery Month. I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of August, in the year of our Lord two thousand sixteen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and forty-first.

BARACK OBAMA

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AMEN!! SO, in Honor of this ADDICTION PROCLAMATION, I will be blogging and having many addiction/recovery guests and guest articles all month long on all types of addictions…. So please drop by all month of September and Together we can make a difference and help “SAVE LIVES!”

I am also Honoring this Special Month by lowering my current e-book titled; “Addicted To Dimes, Confessions of a Liar and a Cheat” my story in a Memoir is now only $3.10 per download here on  Amazon Kindle  …  And September is also:

NATIONAL WEEK OF ACTION SEPT. 25TH – OCT. 1ST ~ Along with Les Bernel, Founder of “Stop Predatory Gambling” – Government & Gambling. http://stoppredatorygambling.org/

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Author and Recovery Columnist,
Catherine Townsend-Lyon

An Exceptional Guest Article Share~Recovery Expert, Author & Coach, Roger Stark …

Hello Recovery Friends and Welcome New Friends,

 

I want to introduce you to a new friend and fellow author of mine who has a large amount of addiction and recovery experience. He is a recovery coach, a writer of exceptional books and guides, and has just released his second book titled Reclaiming Your Addicted Brain. which can be ordered on the link provided and you can always find him over on his website, The Waterfall Concept and is the title of his first book. I happen to come across an excellent article and little interview I ‘d like to share with all of you that is very interesting.

So with further ado, Meet Roger Stark  …. ( Courtesy of www.breakingthecycles.com/ )

 

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(The Waterfall Concept ~ Now on Amazon & In Kindle Store)

 

Face of Recovery | Roger Stark
By, Lisa Frederiksen

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The American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM) defines addiction as “a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry.” Yet there is a great deal of confusion, stigma, shame and discrimination surrounding addiction, addiction treatment, and addiction recovery, and often what are called behavioral or process addictions/disorders – such as sex, gambling, spending and eating addictions/disorders – are the least understood. Perhaps the most harmful reality in all of this is how little we know about recovery, about individuals who have the disease of addiction but are in recovery, living healthy, productive, engaged lives — the same kinds of lives as people who do not have this disease.

All the words and definitions and explanations in the world are not as powerful as these people themselves. To that end, we are grateful to the people in recovery who have decided to share their experiences so that we all may put a Face to Addiction Recovery.

Addiction Recovery – It’s real, it happens to real people, and it happens all the time.

It is my great pleasure to introduce Roger Stark – today’s Face of Recovery.

How Did Your Addiction Start?

Mine is a sexual addiction. That admission elicits a wide variety responses, from “You can’t get addicted to sex,” to “Gee, I would like to have that one!” and everything in between.  Is it a real addiction?  Ask the hundreds of thousands of folks involved in Sexaholics Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous and like self-help groups. They will tell you that their lives are surely unmanageable, that they have learned to use the brain chemicals of lust compulsively, and have become truly powerless.  They will also tell you, standing amidst the rubble and wreckage of their lives, that you, surely, do not want this addiction.

My journey had it’s beginnings when a scoutmaster insisted on showing me some things that were not in the scout handbook.  His sexual abuse created some powerful, dysfunctional emotional currents in the life of a very naive and innocent child. I was raised in a faith-centered, loving home. My father struggled with ETOH and very probably fixed me up with some genetic markers that weren’t very helpful also. But my main concern after the encounters with my perpetrator was to prove that I did not like boys. (I apologize for the homophobic sound of that but in the 1950’s our culture presented much differently.) The only way I knew to prove that I didn’t “like” boys was to “like” girls and I tried to like them a lot.  It became a matter of conquest and while the level of sexual activity was on the innocent side, in the beginning, it quickly grew to “going all the way.” The purpose always being to gather more evidence that I was “normal.”

Over the nearly 40 years of fighting the behaviors that had yet no name, I fell into a Dr. Jeckel and Mr. Hyde life.  Wanting and trying, successfully at times, to live by a very high moral code, and betraying myself with compulsive sexual acting out.  The levels of shame and guilt were off the chart, and of course, over time became part of the acting out cycle.


What was the turning point for you – what made you want to get sober?

Such an interesting question. From very nearly the beginning I wanted to be sober. Acting out broke the moral rules I was striving to live by.  I believed in virtue and monogamy but as the compulsion gained power I failed so many times that hope of doing that left me.  I guess my turning point was the day my therapist put a name to it.  He stopped in our session, rather abruptly and said, “Roger, you do realize you are a sexual addict don’t you.”

Well, I absolutely did not realize that and was quite offended that he wanted to put such a brand on me.  He didn’t argue with me, just gave me a copy of The White Book the Sexaholics Anonymous’s manual.  By page 38, I branded myself. I found hope in the fellowship because I found others in the same struggle that had found sobriety.  Like a fellow mentioned in The White Book, “I didn’t need help quitting, I have quit a thousand times, I needed help staying quit.”  And there, in that group, I found the beginnings of that help.

I cannot adequately convey the excitement I felt about learning skills and finding tools that actually worked and helped me slowly
extinguish the compulsion.  After those first early successes, I was “all in.”


What was your initial treatment?

Much of my early treatment was self-inflicted.  We did not then have the recovery resources that are available today.  I read a lot.  If Patrick Carnes wrote it, I read it.  My White Book and the Big Book were read and reread as were a host of other recovery titles.  I lived in a quite remote area at the time, but found 3 recovery meetings, 2 were an hour away and the other 3 hours.  I tried very hard to attend each weekly. I met weekly by phone with my therapist. I found a sponsor and worked through the steps.

Education helped me immensely.  Beginning to understand brought healing.  Recovery strategies developed as I understood more about what was going on inside of me.

My faith also played an important part.  I have always felt a special Higher Power connection in my life.  When I took this struggle to Him, I felt His sure promise that as I continued to do my recovery work, my heart would heal, (His words not mine.)  I also made a commitment to Him that if He could help me find my way out of this addiction mess, I would spend the rest of my life helping others.  That fall I enrolled in a local college program that led to state licensure as an addiction counselor.

Do you do anything differently, today?

My recovery does have an evolutionary feel to it.  As my understanding deepens my dysfunctions slowly get shed.  As I peel the onion and grow, my approach takes that new wisdom into account, and I seek new skills.  Of late I have benefited from trying to truly live in this particular moment. I am working to grow my understanding of this great concept.

Working with other addicts has also created some changes.  I sometimes feel selfish, that I “recover” more than they do as we work through the process.  It has brought into focus the clear value and importance of carrying the message to others in our own personal recovery experience.


What is your life-like, now?

From the darkest days of my addiction, my current life would have been simply inconceivable.  Recovery has brought me to a belief in miracles. One example is that my wife and I are still together and enjoying life in remarkable ways. My relationship with my 7 children continues to grow or better said, heal. I love serenity. It is such a contrast to the chaos of my addict life.  Peace, calm, quiet, were unknown commodities. I feel a joy in them that renews me daily.  I continue to work with other addicts and write about recovery.  For me, there could be no better life’s work.

Do you have anything you’d like to share with someone currently struggling with a substance abuse problem or an addiction?  How about anything you’d like to share with their family or friends?

Oh, I have a thousand things!  The details and nuances of individual recovery seem to be endless.  But the overriding message is this: Recovery happens!  It is real!  Miracles happen if we submit to the process of recovery and do the work it requires.  A willing heart, armed with some hope and courage, all held together by commitment makes us candidates for recovery and will carry us home.

Addicts should probably be aware that sex is a very common cross addiction.  I long ago lost count of the number of clients who begin the recovery conversation with, “I had a drinking problem 20 years ago and went to AA but now I think I have a sex addiction.”  (Thirteenth Steppers please take note!)

Unfortunately, the learning curve for addicts and family members is remarkably flat.  This is tough stuff.  Many spouses don’t survive the betrayal and feelings of rejection.  I cannot fault them and only feel compassion and empathy for the uninvited struggle they find themselves in.  Recovery is measured in years not months and slips can be crushing.  That said, I do believe in miracles.  I have seen many, I have lived one.  When a couple overcomes this level of adversity, their love can take on an exquisite fullness
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What is the best part about your recovery?

Part of it is that we are having this conversation.  That we can learn and grow from each other and I get to be part of that. Life is such a precious gift.  Having the blessing of living part of it in recovery, free from the chaos and carnage is of great value to me.  Being able to love and cherish my family in an honest faithful way is priceless.

There have been gifts from my addiction.  Things that I know that I would never have come to understand without the affliction.  I am grateful for learning acceptance, finding compassion and empathy, and the joy of unconditional love. These are wonderful fruits of my struggle and I will ever be grateful for them.

These gifts and the opportunity to help others, give the suffering meaning. It was not wasted, not just indiscriminate suffering, but a vehicle for becoming and discovering a better self.  And, if somehow, some way, my work diminishes the suffering of some other poor soul trying to figure out sexual addiction, well, I am pretty okay with that.  Then the gratitude comes, that I have been blessed to learn what could be learned in no other way.

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Thank you, Roger, so very much for sharing your story and CONGRATS on your more than a decade in recovery!

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Gambling Recovery “Thought of The Day”…

Hello, Welcome Recovery Friends!

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“Let us always remember in recovery? BELIEVE In Yourself  &  You Will Be UNSTOPPLE In Recovery!”


Author & Recovery Columnist, Catherine Townsend-Lyon XOXO

How the Smart Mom Does It All.

When mom lives life in recovery, how does she get it all done and keep her recovery in check?
Here are some things recovery mom’s can do to have a well-balanced family life and recovery.
A new guest article by: Darci Maxwell.

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Every mom has a hard time trying to “do it all.” It’s no surprise, there is so much to do – taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, cleaning the house again because your kids got into something, cooking dinner, doing the laundry, running errands, staying in touch with your friends and family, working out, going to work, being an effective employee, etc. etc. etc. The unfortunate truth is that there is not enough time to do everything. However, there are ways to make your life more effective. Read on for twelve tips and tricks to help you accomplish more in less time.

Realize That You Can’t Do Everything


Each of us is limited to 24 hours a day. There are so many things that we want to do, but it is impossible to do everything. You need to learn to let go of the myth of perfection, and only do what you realistically can. Decide what is good enough, and let go of the rest.

Take Care of Yourself

The safety video on an airplane tells you to first secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. If you are burnt out, you will not be able to help your friends or family. Make sure that you get enough sleep, eat right, exercise daily, etc.
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Be Prepared

Save yourself time by being prepared. Keep an overnight bag for each child in the car, stock your fridge and pantry with meals that you can make in a jiffy, have medicines on hand (and keep them labeled), and keep a notebook and pen in your car. It may take a little bit of planning now to make sure that you have things ready for the future, but it will save you time in the long run.

Prioritize

Decide what is most important and tackle those tasks first. There are probably a few things on your list that can be postponed for when you have time, and a few that need to happen right away. Take things one day at a time, and try not to get overwhelmed with your to-do’s.

Make a List

Every day make a list to keep track of the things that you need to get done. Make sure that you put the most important things at the top, and the least important things towards the bottom. Keep a running list throughout the week as well, so that you know what still needs to get done. Mark things off as you accomplish them so that you keep yourself on track. Find a way to organize your list that works for you. Do you like having it on a piece of paper, on your phone, or in your planner?

Set Reminders For Yourself

This blog suggests that you should use your phone or computer to help you complete your to do list. Set timers and reminders for yourself to keep yourself on task. Make sure that you put all of your appointments in your calendar so that you don’t accidentally forget a doctor’s appointment or tee-ball game. If you are not near a phone or computer, keep a kitchen timer at your side so that you can keep track of time.

Organize

You waste a lot of time trying to find things, like your keys, shopping list, reading glasses, coupons, bills, etc. Organize your life and stop wasting time looking for things. ” When you use something, put it away, so that you can find it the next time you need it. Make sure that you label everything, so that you remember where it goes. Create a folder system for your bills so that you can get them all paid. Better yet, set up automatic payments to streamline your process. Adopt the mentality “Everything has a place, and everything belongs in its place.

Simplify

You don’t need to do everything. Find things in your routine that you can cut out so that you can do more in less time. For example, save time by cutting mouthwash out of your dental routine (you may not actually
need it after all). Do quick 15 minute cleanings, and keep cleaning supplies in your bathrooms and kitchen so that you don’t have to take extra time to prepare for gather your cleaning supplies. Find other ways to simplify your routine every day so that you can be more efficient.

Throw It Out

Get rid of old clothes, mail, receipts, etc. If you have not used it in the past year, chances are you’re not going to use it in the next year, so get rid of it! Give it to a neighbor, donate it to a local charity, or just throw it away. Sit down with your children, and help them decide what toys they can give away. Go through your own closet as well and decide what you don’t need anymore.

Don’t Buy It

When you are at the store, avoid buying new unnecessary things to add to the junk in your life. Ask yourself “Do I really need this?” before you buy anything new. Check out rental options around town instead of buying something that you will only use once. For example, rent a carpet cleaner rather buying a new one that you will then have to store somewhere in your house.

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Spend Time With The Family

It is more important to give time to your family than it is to have a spotless house or do everything on your list. Your children will not remember how many errands you run, rather, how much time you spend with them. Take the time to play trains with your 4 year-old son and to dress up with your 3 year-old daughter. Time spent with your children is precious, so make the most of it when you can.

Make a Plan That Works For You

You can find hundreds of self-help books and articles on the internet, each with their own advice. Don’t try to do every helpful hint, as you will exhaust yourself. Find things that work for you, and ask for help when you need it.
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New Recovery Book Cover Reveal of Author, Kevin Coughlin’s Book Soon To Release!

 “Parents, do you know what your teens are doing? This will be the book you’ll need to read to know about the Drug Epidemic happening with your kids.”

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About The New Book and Author:

Addictions: 
What All Parents Need to Know to Survive the Drug Epidemic has been used successfully by numerous individuals, residential recovery programs, out-patient programs, professional recovery coaches, aftercare professionals, counselors, therapists, probation officers, ministries, recovery retreats, sponsors, sober companions, and family members to help them to get a deeper understanding of the disease of addiction, the solution to the problem, and the program of action that promotes change in the substance abuser.

A Support system for family and friends of substance abusers that will help to provide clarity, understanding, education, prevention, and awareness. PLEASE VISIT: The Addiction Expert  for other books written and published by Rev. Dr. Kevin T. Coughlin Ph.D., there you can join his mailing list for advanced notice on his next book.

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About The Author, Rev. Dr. Kevin T. Coughlin Ph.D.,

Rev. Kevin T. Coughlin Ph.D., DCC, DDVA, DLC, DD, NCIP, NCAMP, IMAC
Reverend Coughlin is a Founder and the Director of New Beginning Ministry, Inc., an evidence-based, twelve-step residential addiction recovery program for adults that is accredited by the A.A.C.T.. Rev. Coughlin has helped thousands of people to change their lives over the past eighteen plus years. He is an Addiction Expert, Author, Blogger/Writer at Addicted Minds and VIP Interventions, Sober Services, Inc., Contentwriters.com, Fromaddictict2advocate.com, Twodropsofink.com, small press, newspapers, magazines, websites, and he is a member of The International Association of Professional Writers and Editors. Rev. Coughlin was the Editor in Chief of  Joel’s House Publications from 1997 to 2005. He has been a Professional Associate member at Gemini Behavioral Health.

He is a two-time World Champion and nine-time National Champion and State and National Record holder power lifter, a gentle giant who has championed many in his career. Most call him Rev Kev, they enjoy his lectures and workshops on addiction, recovery, and life. Rev Kev has been very successful with pastoral counseling and recovery coaching with both those addicted and their families. Reverend Coughlin has trained many recovery professionals that have interned at the ministry. He is considered an expert on addiction and recovery. Many have utilized him as a consultant. Rev… Coughlin is a member in good standing of the A.A.C.C., The American Association of Christian Counselors, The Evergreen Council on Problem Gambling, and The National Council on Problem Gambling, NAADAC, USAPL, and IAM Minister’s Fellowship, and The International Christian Coach’s Network.

Rev Kevin is also an internationally published poet and writer, mostly on Addiction and Coaching subjects. To date, he has had over five hundred poems published. He is the founder, CEO and President of Phase II Christian Coaching, LLC, the company operates structured assisted living homes for clients in recovery. Rev Kevin is also a Nationally Certified Recovery Coach and Anger Management Specialist, a Nationally Certified Family Recovery Coach, a Nationally Certified Christian Recovery Coach and Family Recovery Coach, and a Nationally Certified Gambling Addiction Coach, Nationally Certified Case Manager, Life Coach.

Kevin also is an International Master Addictions Coach, Sexual Addiction Coach, Life Recovery Coach and Trainer. Rev. Coughlin is also a Nationally Certified and PA credentialed Interventionist. Rev Kevin also works with The Addictions Academy in Miami, Florida where he designing recovery coaching courses and manuals and is an instructor for the Academy and is now the Program Director.

Author, Kevin Coughlin volunteered his services with Break of Dawn International, Inc. He continues to further his education with The Light University, NAADAC and the Christian Coach’s Network taking several courses and webinars. The Reverend has been awarded ‘Doctorates and Diplomatic’ status: A Doctorate in Christian Counseling and a Doctorate in Divinity, a Degree in Life Coaching, in Domestic Violence Christian Advocacy, and a Ph.D. in Philosophy in Psychology. He also has a BS and an MS in Christian Counseling.

He is Board Certified with DIT Seminary in Christian Counseling with specializations in Grief, Substance Abuse, Alcohol Abuse, Family, and Developmental. He is a licensed Domestic Violence Christian Advocate, a licensed clinical Christian counselor, an AACT-DCU Associate Professor. He also is the Northeastern Vice President of the Administrative School Board.

Please visit Kevin’s Rev. Kevin Coughlin – Amazon Author Page for a list of all his books. You can also connect with Kevin on Goodreads Author on Goodreads.
His Website: WELCOME TO REV KEV’S RECOVERY WORLD
Follow him on Twitter: @new_beginning1
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*Cover Reveal Presented By Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon ~ Recovery Advocate*

Another Couple 5 star Reviews on My Book “Addicted to Dimes”

HELLO RECOVERY FRIENDS & FOLLOWERS & NEW VISITORS,

Just thought I’d *Share* 2 more Reviews of my book. One was just posted on Amazon on 9/13/2013……I like to post them so others can understand how my book came about, and what my Recovery Blog here is all about. I hope it gives some insight to those who have not read my book yet. It is available on Amazon in both paperback & eBook for Kindle.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/0984478485/  it is also on Barnes & Noble in paperback too!

YOU can also now subscribe to my Recovery Blog on the go! My blog here is now on Published Kindle Blogs! Called: Recovery Ramblins of Author Catherine Lyon. There are some really awesome blogs there on Kindle Blogs. So, here are the last 2 Reviews from
readers from Amazon Books for, “Addicted To Dimes” (Confessions of a Liar and A Cheat)…

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This review is from: Addicted to Dimes (Confessions of a Liar and a Cheat) (Paperback)

It was amazing how similar our stories are. The only difference is that I am a recovering drug addict. But we went through the same trial and tribulations. Child-hood traumas, death, feelings of hopelessness, etc. If you are suffering from ANY type of addiction, You should read this. I believe it could help you understand what you are going through and that there is help out there.
And most importantly, you are not alone. With the help of others suffering the same way you are, it’s much easier than doing it alone. And even if you don’t have any type of addictive behavior. This book might help you understand what a suffering addict goes through. It might make people use less Judgement and have a little more compassion for people like us. Not that we want our behavior condoned. We just want to be a little more understood. Catherine did a GREAT job explaining all they cycles and everything that a person goes through with addiction. Thank you for writing this book!…

Ulrica G. Addict in Recovery~~Sherman Oaks, CA

5.0 out of 5 stars A true insight to what a person goes through with gambling addiction, September 13, 2013
This review is from: Addicted to Dimes (Confessions of a Liar and a Cheat) (Paperback)

This book was an insight for me, I never understood what the journey is like for a person dealing with an addiction. This took me awhile to complete reading because there was so much that needed to be digested to really grasp what the author was trying to tell in her recounting of her life. It was a very rough emotional journey that you feel like you are experiencing along with Cathy. I felt so many different emotions when reading this book, that at times I had to set it down because it was so intense and overwhelming. I would recommend this novel for anyone looking to understand the up and downs a person faces when dealing with a gambling addiction. I loved reading about Cathy and her life, and I also appreciated how the book was left in her words and how honest she was in telling her struggles.

I do want to note that, I met Cathy in real life, she was my neighbor for a time. She is a wonderful woman. After we talked for a while, she asked me to read her novel and write a review, so I did. But it took me forever to do so. I have to say I am sorry to her for taking so long. Cathy, it was a touching and insightful journey your story has taken me on these last few months. Thank you for sharing it with me. It gave me hope in knowing that anything can become overcome with love and trust. God bless you. Keep writing and telling your story so others will know that they are not alone and that there is hope after addiction.

**I’m really touched by these kind reviews, and it tells me that there really ARE others who understand and appreciate a REAL TRUE life story. The only condition I gave my Publisher when he wanted to take ME and My Book on to publish was, Nothing be changed of my STORY. I wanted to keep it raw and unedited. WHY? Because I want others to truly FEEL the EXPERIENCES I went through. Gambling Addiction can destroy
lives, as it almost TOOK MY LIFE along with Mental & Emotional disorders.

SO, all I ask is that you read my book, and if you like it or not, share a REVIEW. I’m also on GoodReads as well, so Reviews there would be helpful to spread the word about Addicted Compulsive Gambling. Reviews for me are not about *Rankings* or *Standings*……NO, it’s about people being educated and informed about the Dark-side of a form of “FUN & ENTERTAINMENT” that can easily become an addiction.
Because most of us addicted gamblers suffer in silence. I have NO ill will or feelings
toward others who can Gamble for FUN…..I JUST KNOW I CAN NOT……**

Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon

“The Cruelest Lies are Often Told In Silence”
*Robert Louis Stevenson*

Another Fabulous Blog Award ~~ YES…you can be Fabulous in Recovery!

HELLO RECOVERY FRIENDS, FOLLOWERS. AND NEW VISITORS…WELCOME!,

I have decided to TURN my AWARDS POST into an NEW Awards Page….WHY?
Because my Awesome Pals keep showing me LUV and Nominating me for More of them. I’m SO Blessed and Humbled by all The Awards & Nominations I receive.

WHY?…It makes me feel GOOD that others really are interested in what I Blog about, which at times can be DULL Subject Matter to read. I TRY  to put some humor into where I can, but I missed COMEDY SCHOOL!!

I do find that MYSELF, and Many others FEEL, the only way to *SHATTER the STIGMA* around others who suffer from ANY type of Addiction, or being a person in Recovery, And/Or,  someone who BATTLES ANY type of Mental and Emotional illness, or Disorder is to SPEAK OUT about these ISSUE’S!  SO I take these Awards Seriously. So I have a permanent page for All My *FABULOUS* Blog Awards!  And I’ve been Nominated AGAIN for Another,……. so Hang on to your HATS!!

**My Fabulous Blog Awards ~~ YES…you can be Fabulous in Recovery!**

**HERE is my Newest Blogger Award Nomination**

Well, even with all the *DRAMA OF EVICTION* going on around me……I try to still Help, Encourage, Reach-out, and still *Spread *HOPE* to others who may be still stuck on the *CYCLE* of Addicted Gambling, or ANY type of Addiction. I’ve been Posting of my own *Life Challenges* going on in my Life, and the ONLY thing that keeps me Grounded, and filled with Hope & Joy is to be of Recovery Service to others NO MATTER WHAT!

AND……A very Kind follower of my Blog has NOMINATED me for *The Inner Peace Award* I love HER Blog as well.  ANNA always Shows Courage, and helps MANY with her Sharing of her True Inner feelings of *HOPE* as well, and is not SHY about Speaking OUT and Speaking Up of Recovery, Mental health & many other disorders I, and others Suffer on a Daily Basis…….Please Meet Anna and Her Blog, “ROSE WITH THORNS~~Recovery HOPE for ALL”…….SO I THANK YOU ANNA from my Heart To Yours for My Nomination!!

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Opening My Heart to Hope

Aspergian, depressed, anxious, anorexic, past compulsive over-eater, PTSD sufferer, SIB inflictor, allergy sensitive, sleep struggler: I have had many labels placed on my in my life.  However, as a college student, I am finally beginning to see a ray of hope at the end of the tunnel.

My name is Anna Rose and the purpose of this blog is to help support and give hope to all of those struggling with any mental illness, learning disability, and hardship.  Also, those who support family or friends dealing with these issues can gain insight and ideas for caring for loved ones.

At my baptism  my mother brought a rose.  The priest told her that it was good that she brought “a real rose with thorns” because my life would be “beautiful but full of pain.”  Those words to a baby he barely knew have certainly come true.  Because of this as well as my name, roses have become an important symbol of my life and struggles.

Overall, this site is for everyone and everyone who needs a ray of light in the dark, understanding voice, and non- judgmental encouragement giver.

If you so choose, you can also follow me on these other sites.

***HERE ARE THE DETAILS AND THE RULES OF THIS BLOG AWARD & My PICKS who I’ve Nominated!***

1.) There is ONLY ONE RULE TO THIS AWARD!!….LOL…Nominate as Many Awesome Blogs you’d like that bring your Inner Peace, Hope, and Courage, as YOU pass it to others!…….HERE ARE ALL MY BLOGS & WEBSITE I NOMINATED……..
Inner Peace Award

1.) http://good2begone.wordpress.com
2.) http://jenniferbchaz.com
3.) http://www.gracepete.com
4.) http://www.gracepete.blogspot.com
5.) http://themiracleisaroundthecorner.wordpress.com
6.) http://bipolarforlife.me
7.) http://awaywithwordsblog.com
8.) http://sobergrace.wordpress.com
9.) http://Quarksire.wordpress.com
10.) http://runningonsober.com
11.) http://byebyeBeer.wordpress.com
12.) http://rossmurray1.wordpress.com
13.) http://humaninrecovery.wordpress.com
14.) http://mylifein24hours.wordpress.com
15.) http://messageinabottleblog.wordpress.com
16.) http://IwantmylifeBack.wordpress.com
17.) http://inspiredbythecomforter.com
18.) http://projectlighttolife.wordpress.com
19.) http://cogitabunda.wordpress.com
20.) http://mm172001.wordpress.com 

**Lets Always remember what the good doctor Says, “You were not born to JUST fit in, You were born to Stand Out”!!** Dr. Seuss

ALL OF my nominated Blogs & Websites are very Worthy of this award. The Truly help bring INNER PEACE to me in one way, and they Inspire ME in my Recovery!!
SO go pay them a Visit and tell them Catherine sent you……. 🙂 🙂
**To see all my Nominations for Awards, check out *MY Fabulous Blog Awards Page**
May God Bless You My Friends!  *Author, Catherine Lyon* 🙂

 

God Grant Me The SERENITY~~ Serenity Photo of the day

*This is in *Yosemite National Park,* Ca….I had the blessing of seeing it in person on a High School Trip in 1980~~at the bottom is called *Bridle Falls* where we had a Picnic for Dinner*
It was Beautiful then, and still beautiful Today! It truly does give Serenity when you are there! *Catherine*

DO NOT LET YOUR PAST DEFINE YOUR FUTURE!

*THIS is most important to Remember In Recovery! TWO things are needed to be Know…..Our Past does not define WHO we are today..at this moment, & OUR PAST of where we have been in addiction and recovery, IS A VERY POWERFUL TOOL to share with others in Recovery……*Thanks for your Post my Friend **

Not Guilty (7/16/13)

I feel this goes with a bit of what I had posted earlier Today! God Bless, Catherine….

THE RIVER WALK

Read: 1 Chronicles 22:1-23:32, Romans 3:9-31, Psalm 12:1-8, Proverbs 19:13-14

We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. (Romans 3:22)

Trayvon Martin

Relate: I was reading up about the Trayvon Martin case and came across a Huffington Post article talking about how many churches turned this past Sunday into “Hoodie Sunday” as they shared their various messages. This sparked a couple thoughts about faith and justification that tie in well with what Paul is talking about in Romans 3.

First of all, lets just pretend in reality that George Zimmerman is as guilty as sin. I know different people have differing opinions but for the sake of argument lets just pretend that Trayvon Martin did absolutely nothing wrong and George Zimmerman was a power hungry maniac who chose to kill him out…

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Everyday is a NEW day to be Kind & Help someone in Recovery & Life!

Hello friends and visitors!

I sometimes get asked, “Catherine, why do you spend a lot of your day helping others on your Blog??…….You do *Showcase’s & Spotlights,* you Troll the internet for New Recovery sites to share, and things”? “You could have had a few more books out by now.” Well my “Higher Power”, which I really don’t PUSH on folks, my HP is the lord Jesus Christ……and the gospel tells us, IN what ever we do in life each day, always remember the Big Show!…..The Kingdom of Heaven……The future……your Eternity in heaven!!

SEE, I don’t DO these things to GET into heaven……because I already know that it is Expected of me to be Kind, Helpful, have Compassion for others no MATTER who they are, or where they come from. They could be homeless folks, addicted peeps, a Doctor or a Lawyer,….doesn’t matter the Color of one’s skin, who their sexual partner is, or if they are a Christian or not…….AS long as they are Breathing, and on this Earth……I will be kind, generous, caring, helpful, and anything else you want to add. 🙂

I know that the lord called me down this path for a reason???……my life, my trials, my addiction, my trauma & abuse, ALL of it…..NOT to be a Victim……it was so I would have empathy for others, to care about people, and help them if need be. I have learned so much from all my life experiences, and so I *SHARE* it with others in HOPE of giving them encouragement to do the same. To be kind and helpful to others.

As far as my HP,…..he only asks so little of Me. To tell others WHY he was born, WHY he DIED, and WHY he is in Heaven with his Father, and in return, HE sends US blessings……But we only see those blessings if we have *FAITH & BELIEVE* & have a *Spiritual* Open mind and Open heart. Not by judgment of, or not helping others, turning a blind eye to what’s in front of us……….

NO…being in longer term recovery means sharing what you have learned, what skills & tools help you stay on your journey. Telling our own stories to others is our Testimony of where we have been, but just as important, where we are headed. Words are very Powerful tools to help one another in Recovery!

When I was still working in banking, I used to tell my clients that, “NO matter how much money you may have here, it could $500.000.00….or just $10.00……my clients all get treated the same, with respect, and Excellent client service!”……Because the gospel tells me….the one’s with the least……will be the first into the Kingdom…..So that is my LONG ANSWER to why I do the things I do for others…….Lets Just be KIND,….It takes WAY Less Energy!!..LOL….

**Have a Fantastic Day & Week Everyone!!** Author, Catherine Lyon ~~ 🙂 🙂

*No Recovery Post Monday*~~ Meet Author, Art Crandon*

SO, Yes….I live Life in recovery, but I’m also an author, writer, and I Love to read!! In my Short writing career I have been blessed to meet some pretty COOL and Popular writers, and this man is NO exception! He has been such a wonderful guy and so supportive of me and My Recovery! Those type of PEEPS are rare! So let me introduce you to “Arthur Crandon” and his New Release, (Which  got early!)
“Deadly Election” just launched, he lives like *The Cats Meow” in Hong Kong, and I just Love him……SSSHHHHH…Don’t tell anyone!!

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It’s been a hard week here in Hong Kong – it is nearly the height of the summer now, so very hot. My friends and family in the UK are always complaining about the economy, the weather, the politicians, the bad TV, the expensive restaurants and the poor service everywhere – and then about the economy again.   I do consider myself lucky to live in Hong Kong.  The economy is strong and people generally (expats and locals) have a much more positive attitude to life, the universe and everything.As a writing community we are also lucky.  Many famous writers live here, some teach in on the creative writing programmes of the Universities.  There are a couple of active writers groups who are both supportive and informative. Most writers I know here adopt the J.K. Rowling model – writing in Starbucks!  Living spaces here are very expensive – and very small and cramped, so the coffee shops are full of students (in Hong Kong students are VERY diligent) doing their homework – businessmen having meetings – and the occasional writer.

I guess Hong Kong achieved notoriety for a few short days recently when Edward Snowden stayed here while shopping around for asylum.  He stayed at the Mira hotel – a hotel I visit regularly, but I did not see him.
Now that the giant rubber duck (see picture) has gone from Victoria Harbour there is not really much exciting going on here.

Oh well, back to the writing.  I have started on the second novel in my ‘Asian Intrigue’ series.  Did you know that a lot of gold is smuggled out of the Philippines and ends up in China (via the Hong Kong)? Well, there is – and my story is about that, and the surprising spy agencies involved and the unsavoury characters they use to achieve their questionable objectives.In the meantime, my relaunched novel Deadly Election now has more than 20 reviews – an amazing total in so short a time. Here are some brief details of the book – click the cover to go to the Amazon page:

The murder of three innocent villagers is the prelude to a tale of intrigue, deceit, greed and more murders as Senator Consuelo, an aging but ambitious politician desperately pursues his bid for the Presidency – at any cost.  He reckoned without Paul, a retired military man, who engineers his downfall.   After an unsuccessful murder attempt Paul is resolved to bring the evil man to justice.  With the help of friends in high places he manages to do so, but only just in time.   As the Senator languishes in his jail cell, others have difficult decisions to make.  The Senators fate is sealed, but there may be other ways for his family and associates.  The Senators plans for escape are brought to an abrupt and final halt.
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Arthur Crandon – click for more info
As usual – the blog would not be complete without the cats! – a duck is no substitute! I have promised many readers that I will not go another week without fur  – so here they are: If you have trouble relaxing – try watching this cute cats parade video – it works for me. click here for cats video
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**Fantastic MJ TRIBUTE & A SWEET BOY**


I happen to be on Google+ checking out some Blog posts, and I happen to come across this video…..It gave me Goose Bumps as I watched it!! Not sure what country it is from, but you know it’s Xfactor TV Show. It is a *FABULOUS* Tribute to *Michael Jackson* I’ve EVER SEEN!! I’m not one to share video’s, but this GRAB MY ATTENTION!! Yes….has nothing to do with addiction or recovery…..look at it as Life Balance!!  *SMILE…IT’S MONDAY!!* {Click Link below to watch!}

*And Another GONE to Soon…….*Update*”Glee Star” Cory Monteith Dies*

**HERE IS AN UPDATE ON COREY MONTEITH**

Image: File photo of Cory Monteith (© Chris Pizzello/AP)
Coroner: Cory Monteith died of heroin, alcohol overdose

VANCOUVER, British Columbia (AP) — “Glee” actor Cory Monteith died of an overdose of  heroin and alcohol, the British Columbia coroner’s office said Tuesday.

“There is no evidence to suggest Mr. Monteith’s death was anything other than  a most tragic accident,” the office said in a statement.

The 31-year-old was found dead in his Vancouver, British Columbia, hotel room  on Saturday, after he didn’t check out on time. He was believed to be alone when  he died.

Bing: Cory Monteith on  ‘Inside the Actor’s Studio’

Police said Monteith had been out with people earlier, but video and  electronic records from the hotel indicated he returned to his room by himself  early Saturday.

Monteith’s death recalled the lives of Heath Ledger, Corey Haim and River  Phoenix — actors who battled substance abuse and died in their 20s and 30s.

Monteith had talked bluntly about struggling with addiction since he was a  teenager, calling it a serious problem and telling Parade magazine in 2011 he  was “lucky to be alive.”

Monteith admitted himself to a treatment facility in April for substance  addiction, a representative said at the time. He also received treatment when he  was 19.

“Glee,” with its catchy song-and-dance numbers and high-profile guest stars  like Gwyneth Paltrow and Britney Spears, became an instant hit  when it debuted in 2009. Monteith served as the show’s resident hunk with a  heart of gold.

The Fox network and the producers of “Glee,” including 20th Century Fox  Television, have called Monteith an exceptional performer “and an even more  exceptional person.” 

Gia Milani, who recently produced and directed a Canadian film featuring  Monteith, this week said Monteith “seemed healthy” when she last saw him four  weeks ago in Los Angeles.

“He looked super fit and he was energetic and excited,” Milani said. She said  Monteith showed no signs of a substance abuse problem while shooting the film a  year ago. 😦 😦

ANOTHER *STAR* GONE TOO SOON ROCKS THE ENTERTAINMENT WORLD!!

“THE CRUELEST LIES ARE OFTEN TOLD IN SILENCE”
*Robert Louis Stevenson*
Image: Actor Cory Monteith arrives at the 19th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at the Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles on Jan. 27, 2013 (© Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP)
  • ‘Glee’ star Monteith found dead at 31

    Cory Monteith, who portrayed Finn Hudson on the hit TV series about a high school glee club, was found in his room at the Fairmont Pacific Rim Hotel in Vancouver.

  • Stars react to Cory Monteith’s death
  • In memoriam photo gallery | Celebs we’ve lost too soonSO…..REALLY, what’s it’s going to take to STOP the killing, the overdoses, the demons that lurk around Drugs and the people they KILL….Another young man gone to SOON??
    Another *Most Likely SUICIED*…..a wasted LIFE because of Drugs??How many more lives will the this thing called DRUG ADDICTION claim??? Yes, I know my addiction was Addicted Compulsive Gambling, but in the Recovery World we say, “addiction is addiction no matter what the type”…….One addiction can sometimes lead you to another, I know there were times when I gambled heavy, I would start drinking along with my gambling. When you tend to have an Addictive Personality* or tendencies all addictions to you can be WIDE OPEN.

    See, I just don’t get it??….Where were his family, or his close friends, or co-workers???….Could NO ONE see any signs of distress, or him looking outwardly high or acting strange???…..that is what I don’t understand. Someone must have had a red flag or feelings that he wasn’t all together???….So many unanswered questions. That’s what makes this so much more *HEART BREAKING*…….

    ‘Glee’ star Cory Monteith dead at 31
    July 14, 2013, 2:54 AM EST

    By Jethro Nededog

    Cory Monteith, who played  jock-turned-gleek Finn Hudson on FOX’s musical phenomenon “Glee,”was found dead Saturday at a Vancouver hotel. He was  31.

    The Canadian actor’s body was found just after noon at the Fairmont Pacific  Rim Hotel, said Vancouver police at a news conference Saturday night. They did  not give a cause of death, but said foul play was not suspected.

    Monteith had recently finished a stint in rehab for substance abuse, after  previously seeking help for addiction at age 19.

    “On behalf of the Vancouver Police, I want to pass on our condolences to the  family, friends, castmates and millions of fans of Mr. Monteith,” acting chief  Doug LePard said. “As was the case in countless homes, I watched ‘Glee’  regularly with my daughters, and I know there will be shock and sadness in many  households with the news of his tragic death.”

    As Finn on “Glee,” Monteith helped make it cool again to sing on scripted  shows. He served as a surrogate for those in the audience who weren’t sure about  embracing music — and delivered jaw dropping renditions of songs like U2’s “One”  and Michael Jackson’s “Man in the Mirror.”

    “We are deeply saddened by this tragic news. Cory was an exceptional talent  and an even more exceptional person,” FOX said in a statement on behalf of the  network, the show’s producers and 20th Century Television. “He was a true joy to  work with and we will all miss him tremendously. Our thoughts and prayers are  with his family and loved ones.”

    Also: In memoriam photo gallery: Cory  Monteith

    Monteith had seemed to have turned a corner recently, emerging from rehab and  appearing last month with longtime girlfriend and “Glee” co-star Lea Michele at a  charity ball.

    Police responded within minutes of receiving a call Saturday from the BC  Ambulance Service regarding a death in a room on the 21st floor of the Fairmont  Pacific Rim Hotel at 1038 Canada Place in downtown Vancouver.

    Upon arriving, paramedics advised the officers that Monteith was dead.  Coroner’s staff was also on hand.

    Officials said no cause of death was apparent, but said Monteith had  been dead for several hours before his body was discovered.

    According to the police statement, Monteith checked in July 6 and  was due to check out Saturday. Monteith had guests Friday night, but video and  key entry records show him returning by himself in the early morning, and police  believe he was alone when he died.

    Hotel staff discovered his body after he missed check-out.

    An autopsy is scheduled for Monday. The coroner will be determining the next  steps with respect to establishing cause of death, but all indications are that  there was no foul play.

    Born in Calgary on May 11, 1982, Monteith began his acting career in  Vancouver.

    An original “Glee” cast member, Monteith played Finn Hudson since the FOX  series debuted in 2009. He also stars in the upcoming independent film, “All the  Wrong Reasons.”

    The actor admitted himself into a facility for substance addiction earlier  this year and completed the treatment program in April.

    Monteith is survived by his parents, Joe Monteith and Ann McGregor, and  a brother, Shaun.

    **R.I.P**~~Corey…..You will be missed!……**

     

*A Wee Bit about my Gambling Addiction I’m Recovering from*

**WHAT IS ADDICTED COMPULSIVE GAMBLING?? **
By William Morrison, Wed, July 10, 2013~~Courtesy Of www.MyAddiction.com

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In the latest edition of the Diagnostic Services Manual (DSM-5), problem gambling is classified under “Impulse Control Disorders Not Elsewhere Classified.” It is referred to as pathological gambling, but we know it best as an addiction, and this view is supported by the National Center for Responsible Gaming (NCRG).

NCRG cites Dr. Charles O’Brien, a contributor to DSM-5:

According to Dr. Charles O’Brien, chair of the Substance-Related Disorders Work Group for DSM-5, brain imaging studies and neurochemicals test have made a “strong case that [gambling] activates the reward system in much the same way that a drug does.”

A Basic Conflict of Interest

The pathological gambler is to a casino as an alcoholic is to a bar. They become the best of customers – sitting for hours at a time, with little interest in food or distracting entertainment, and they gamble. Sometimes, they gamble until the run out of money and can’t get any more. Until they can’t write any more checks and until their credit card limit is exhausted. But the irony is that the casino is supposed to intervene when they detect such a person.

That’s right. We expect the casino to ban their most valuable type of customer. A customer so loyal they’ll spend their last nickel, go home broke and still come back for more as soon as possible.

The Black List

Problem gamblers can bar themselves from casinos. Often, as part of a treatment program, a gambler will sign up to have him or herself put on a black list. Once on, the gambler cannot get removed until a set time period has passed – usually 3 to 5 years. This is good – when it works. The lists aren’t necessarily shared across establishments and only rarely will a self-banning in one state transfer to another.

Still, the black list is a good idea. And if casinos really wanted to address the problem of pathological gambling, they’d be quick to spot these players and offer help, perhaps even blocking them from a return visit. But do they?

An Insider’s Report

In a recent re-airing of a 2012 report, National Public Radio’s ”This American Life” covered the story of a problem gambler who was loaned (over six markers) a total of $125,000. They sued her and won, not only the gambling debt, but damages for a total judgment of $500,000. Her only defense was that the casino knew she was addicted and encouraged her to keep playing – well past her means to pay.

The victim talked about casinos calling her at home, fighting with one another to get her “business.” She says she came to dread the calls, knowing they would trigger another round of the addiction cycle.

The casinos claim they operate like any business and they don’t support pathological gambling. But the radio show host interviewed one of the pit bosses and got a different story:

Sarah Koenig: [talking to a pit boss who worked at Caesars Palace in Las Vegas]: Did you ever serve gamblers that you knew personally, that you knew or suspected that they were addicted? Kristian Kunder: Yes…  There’s a lot of people who come through who are obvious. I’ve seen players gambling. And I could go home, come to work the next night, they’re still there in their same clothes, in the same seat. … Sarah Koenig:  So when he [the casino spokesperson] says, “Our objective is to try to identify addicted gamblers as best we can and encourage them to seek treatment and help,” that’s not true? Kristian Kunder: Not one bit. Not the slightest part. In no way. The only time they’ll approach a player is if they’re suicidal or something like that.

Is it a case of the fox watching the hen-house? Perhaps. Plainly, there’s a lot of money to be made serving problem gamblers. With 1 to 3 percent of US adults thought to be problem gamblers, the potential profit is huge. And 48 of our 50 states have some form of it available. (Stats here.)

As long as casinos remain immune from lawsuits, nothing will change. Bars can be sued when they serve alcohol to a drunk, but a casino cannot be successfully sued for bankrupting one of its clients – even when they should have known they had a gambling addiction.

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**I HAVE TO ADD THAT, I myself banned myself from one casino that is 42 miles from my home…..it back fired…..Because in THE STATE of OREGON, we have video and slot poker machines EVERYWHERE! I can right NOW go across the street to the bar and gamble on there Machines. And it’s what I did! I got addicted to the Oregon Lottery Machines, instead of going to the Indian Casino.

I can walk up a block and 1/2 to one of the MANY SO called Lottery Retailers that have 6 gambling slot/video poker machines in them at each retailer!! This makes it very difficult for recovering addicted gamblers to stay NON-COMPLACEMENT in their recovery. I go to the grocery store, I go through the check out line…..LOW & Behold, there are SCRATCH TICKETS staring at me under plexy glass while I pay for my food.

This is WHY I have posted my Permanent *Recovery Relapse Guide* on a page here on my Blog, so others can use it and Help SAFE Guard themselves…..

God Bless My Friends!   Catherine 🙂 🙂

An Open Letter To Ellen DeGeneres

If you haven’t seen this wonderful, funny blog yet….YOU NEED TOO!! Trust me, you be get *HOOKED*….I read this post and it was *SCREAMING RE-BLOGG!! So Enjoy if you haven’t seen the 100’s of it’s RE-BLOGGS ALREADY! *Catherine* 🙂 🙂

You've Been Hooked!

Dearest Ellen,

Hello. How are you? That’s great to hear, seriously. Listen, I know you’ve got a full plate in front of you right now (Okay, maybe not literally; you don’t look like you eat that much, to be honest. However, I stand by the statement.), especially considering how many challenges you have to deal with right now.

  • Voicing animated fish is no mean feat. (How do they record your voice underwater anyway?)
  • Arranging for Sofía Vergara to be “accidentally” deported so you can be the reigning CoverGirl has to be a lot of work.
  • Teaching millions of people to dance like no one is watching while hosting a kick-butt talk show must be exhausting. And sweaty, no doubt.

Normally I use this forum to write about my life as a bellman in Niagara Falls, but today I want to write to you from my heart.

I’ve been married to…

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*Part 2 of my Interview & Article on MyAddiction.com ~~My Gambling Addiction*

**HERE IS PART 2 OF MY ARTICLE ON WWW.MTADDICTION.COM  About my Addicted Compulsive Gambling and being in Recovery now 6+yrs.**

By Jacqueline Pabst, Tue, February 05, 2013

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Cathy Lyon shares her experiences with gambling addiction and recovery. Click here to buy her book on Amazon: Addicted To Dimes

What were your triggers?

For me, this question is a “mixed bag.” For my own recovery, my triggers always seemed to co-exist with bad habits and behaviors. My triggers allowed me to feel a sense of entitlement. What I mean by this is that when I felt the urge to gamble, I justified my urge by telling myself I deserved to relax, that I deserved a reward, etc. For example, if I got into an argument with my husband, that would trigger negative thoughts and behaviors, which would lead to gambling. By justifying my addiction, I got into a vicious cycle of entitlement, blame, denial and lying, which, of course, led to more gambling.

I remember the days of going to my treatment group in GA (Gamblers Anonymous) — just hearing other people talk about gambling was a trigger for me, and I often went to gamble after meetings. I think a lot of people did that, because a lot of us are in denial about having a problem. I definitely was. I also learned that triggers don’t always happen immediately…I could be triggered by a disappointment, but not recognize it until a couple days later.

Did you have any major relapses after you began your recovery?

I had three major relapses. Two were from active gambling relapses, the third had more to do with my general recovery. I’d been so focused on the emotional and illness side of addiction that I hadn’t been working on my financial health. It can be very overwhelming when you first reach for recovery. This question is hard for me. There is still a twinge of pain for me when I talk about my two major relapses. It was a very dark time in my life, I was using compulsive gambling to escape emotional, physical and sexual abuse that I’d experienced as a child. My feelings first resurfaced after my brother in law passed, right before I turned 30. I went to see a therapist for awhile, and I thought I had resolved my issues. I know now that the reason it took me so long to get a real foothold on recovery was because I wouldn’t accept the fact that gambling was slowly destroying my life. I was in and out of a treatment group and GA from 1999 until my first Major relapse in November of 2002, right before my 40th birthday.

I’d been gambling like crazy! I was fighting with my husband, using the same lies and excuses, telling him it was his fault I gambled, that his work was driving us apart. I was gambling before work, on my lunch hour, after work, anytime I could. I’d tell my husband I was going to a friends house but he knew where I was going. He just let me go, he was tired of fighting. I started to realize that I couldn’t keep up with all my lies. I had to pick up the mail before my husband did so that he wouldn’t see the credit card bills, I was hiding the money I’d taken from our bank accounts. I felt like I was going insane.

What put me over the edge was when my best friend in the whole world passed away from cancer…a week before my birthday. I was supposed to meet my husband and her family after work, but instead I drove to the Indian Casino. I was there most of the day, lost hundreds of dollars, and I barely remember driving home that night because I was so distraught. All I remember is dialing the phone to call my treatment counselor, and the next thing I knew, I woke up in the hospital in a white room with padded walls. There were police and doctors outside talking incomprehensibly, and then I blacked out again. I woke up in a room at the Mental/Addictions crisis center. When I woke up, I looked around and saw that my arms and wrists had cuts on them, one very deep, and that I had a few stitches. I ended up staying in the crisis center for 11 days, with the first 4 on suicide watch. While at my stay, my primary doctor and the crisis center doctor found that I was suffering from severe depression, high anxiety, panic disorder, and symptoms of bipolar disorder. So they started me on 3 medications. I always knew I had high anxiety, but I had no idea about the other disorders.  While I was there, I worked hard with my addiction counselor, and I didn’t gamble for six months straight.

However, I started feeling good, I got complacent, and I decided that I could still gamble as long as I “control” it. This led to another 3 and 1/2 years of binge gambling. I was still going to meetings, but I’d lie through my teeth  — I maxed out credit cards, got fired from jobs for stealing and pawned anything of value. Then, we had to sell our home in 2005, just before it got foreclosed. I wasn’t working and we moved into a rental home.

I felt like everyone in my life was treating me like I was some sort of “mental freak” just because I had to take meds for my mental/emotional well being. So, I stopped taking my meds and I just kept telling myself that I could be a “normal person.” The other thing that was hard for me to contemplate was that I could get “high” without ingesting any substance, that my gambling was actually an addiction like drugs or alcohol. So, with the perfect storm brewing, I was heading down a very dark path. I gambled away the money we got from the sale of our house in three months. I was constantly chasing the money I lost until I was so far gone mentally that I tried killing myself again by taking all of my meds at once.

I gave up on life, on myself, on everyone who loved me – I just wanted it all to end! Once again, I ended up in the hospital and the crisis center and learned I’d never really wanted to stop gambling in the beginning. I was so broken, in mind, body, soul, and spirit, that I made the choice to believe in a power greater than myself. I decided that God wasn’t done with me, that he would show me my true purpose. I truly believe that I was meant to go down this path, and that my higher power said I was meant to learn from it.  And did I EVER!!

Next week: Lessons Learned

*Addiction & Recovery In Entertainment ~~ Not A Secret*

I’ve been asked many times, “Catherine, how do you usually start your day”???
I start each & everyday with my OWN recovery *Serenity Prayer*as follows:

**GOD, GRANT ME THE SERENITY & PATIENTS TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE,
COURGAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN ACCORDING TO MY WALK WITH YOU LORD,
AND GIVE WISDOM & KNOWLEDGE TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE**……

THIS IS HOW I START MY DAY…..THEN I grab some coffee and get started!!

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 OK, SO WE ALL KNOW that drugs, booze, gambling, sex, and lord knows What Else prevails in the Entertainment Industry……Like they say: “More Money, More Problems”!! But it’s not often that CELEBS will talk Openly about there addictions, and even rarer that they speak out about their Sobriety…….All we see are the Pic’s and Photo’s Blasted on all the Rag Mag’s. I seen an article on *RUSSELL BRANDS* Website, then another different one on a Recovery Website out of Canada, and I thought I would *SHARE* it.  Russell give’s a UNIQUE look into his recovery, AND as we all know Russell is a UNIQUE CHAP all his own!….SO HERE WE GO,

“The last time I thought of taking heroin was yesterday. I had received  ‘an inconvenient truth’ from a beautiful woman. It wasn’t about climate change (I’m not that ecologically switched on). She told me she was  pregnant and it wasn’t mine.

I had to take immediate action. I put Morrissey on in my car and as I  wound my way through the neurotic Hollywood hills my misery burgeoned.  Soon I could no longer see where I ended and the pain began. So now I  had a choice.

I cannot accurately convey the efficiency of heroin in neutralising  pain. It transforms a tight white fist into a gentle brown wave, and from my  first inhalation 15 years ago it fumigated my private hell. A bathroom  floor in Hackney embraced me like a womb, and now whenever I am  dislodged from comfort my focus falls there.

It is ten years since I used drugs or drank alcohol and my life has  immeasurably improved. I have a job, a house, a cat, good friendships  and generally a bright outlook.
But the price of this is constant vigilance, because the disease of  addiction is not rational. Recently, for the purposes of a documentary  on this subject, I reviewed some footage of myself smoking heroin. I sit wasted and slumped with an unacceptable haircut against a wall in  another Hackney flat (Hackney is starting to seem like part of the  problem), inhaling fizzy black snakes of smack off a scrap of crumpled  foil. When I saw the tape a month or so ago, what was surprising was  that my reaction was not one of gratitude for the positive changes I’ve  experienced. Instead I felt envious of this earlier version of myself,  unencumbered by the burden of abstinence. I sat in a suite at the Savoy  hotel, in privilege, resenting the woeful Ratbag  I once was who, for all his problems, had drugs.

That is obviously irrational, but the mentality and behavoir of drug  addicts and alcoholics is wholly irrational until you understand that  they are completely powerless over their addiction and, unless they have structured help, they have no hope.

This is the reason I have started a fund within Comic Relief, ‘Give It Up’. I want to raise awareness of, and money for, abstinence-based recovery.  It was Kevin Cahill’s idea — he is the bloke who runs Comic Relief. He  called me after reading an article I wrote after Amy Winehouse died. Her death had a powerful impact on me, I suppose because it was such an  obvious shock, like watching someone for hours through a telescope  advance towards you, fist extended with the intention of punching you in the face. Even though I saw it coming, it still hurt when it eventually hit me.What was so painful about Amy’s death is that I know that there is something I could have done. I could have passed on to her the solution that was  freely given to me. Don’t pick up a drink or drug, one day at a time. It sounds so simple, it actually is simple, but it isn’t easy — it requires incredible support and  fastidious structuring. Not to mention that the whole infrastructure of  abstinence-based recovery is shrouded in necessary secrecy. There are  support fellowships that are easy to find and open to anyone who needs  them, but they eschew promotion of any kind in order to preserve the  purity of their purpose, which is for people with alcoholism and  addiction to help one another stay clean and sober.
Without these fellowships I would take drugs. Because even now the condition  persists. Drugs and alcohol are not my problem — reality is my problem.  Drugs and alcohol are my solution.
If this seems odd to you, it is because you are not an alcoholic or a drug addict. You are likely one of the 90 per cent of people who can drink  and use drugs safely. I have friends who can smoke weed, swill gin, even do crack, and then merrily get on with their lives. For me this is not  an option. I will relinquish all else to ride that buzz to oblivion.  Even if it began as a timid glass of chardonnay on a ponce’s yacht, it  would end with me necking the bottle, swimming to shore and sprinting to Bethnal Green in search of a crack house.
 
Justin Bieber
 ‘We’re invited to dinner at the Biebers’ — seven for nine-thirty.’

I looked to drugs and booze to fill up a hole in me. Unchecked, the call  of the wild is too strong. I still survey streets for signs of the  subterranean escapes that used to provide my sanctuary. I still eye the  shuffling subclass of junkies and dealers, invisibly gliding between  doorways through the gutters.I see the abundantly wealthy with destitution in their stare. I have a friend so beautiful, so haunted by  talent that you can barely look away from her, whose smile is such a  treasure that I have often squandered my sanity for a moment in its  glow. Her story is so galling that no one would condemn her for her dependency on illegal anaesthesia, but now, even though her life is  trying to turn around despite her, even though she has genuine  opportunities for a new start, the gutter will not release its prey.The gutter is within.

It is frustrating to love someone with this disease. A friend of mine’s  brother cannot stop drinking. He gets a few months of sobriety and his  family bask, relieved, in the joy of their returned loved one. His life  gathers momentum, but then he somehow forgets the price of this freedom, returns to his old way of thinking, picks up a drink and Mr Hyde is  back in the saddle. Once more his face is gaunt and hopeless. His family blame themselves and wonder what they could have done differently,  racking their minds for a perfect sentiment wrapped up in the perfect  sentence, a magic bullet.The fact is, though, that the sufferer must be a willing participant in their own recovery. They must not pick up a  drink or drug. Just don’t pick it up — that’s all.

It is difficult to feel sympathy for these people. Can there be any other  disease that renders its victims so unappealing? Would Great Ormond  Street be so attractive a cause if its beds were riddled with obnoxious  little criminals who had ‘brought it on themselves’?
Peter Hitchens is a vocal adversary of mine on this matter. He sees this  condition as a matter of choice and the culprits as criminals who should go to prison. I know how he feels. I bet I have to deal with a lot more drug addicts than he does, let’s face it, I share my brain with one,  and I can tell you first-hand they are total nightmares. Where I differ  from Peter is in my belief that, if we regard alcoholics and drug  addicts not as bad people but as sick people, then we can help them to  get better. By we, I mean other people who have the same problem but  have found a way to live drug- and alcohol-free lives. Guided by  principles and traditions, a program has been founded that has worked  miracles in millions of lives. Not just the alcoholics and addicts  themselves, but their families, their friends and of course society as a whole.

What we want to do with Give It Up is popularise a compassionate perception  of drunks and addicts and provide funding for places at treatment centers where they can get clean using these principles. Then, once they are free of drugs and alcohol, to make sure they retain contact with  the support that is available to keep them clean.

I wound down the hill in an alien land; Morrissey chanted lonely mantras. The pain accumulated and I began to tell myself the old, old story. I  thought of places I could score. Off Santa Monica, there’s a homeless  man who I know uses gear. I could find him, buy him a bag if he takes me to score.
In my mind, I leave him on the corner, a couple of rocks, a couple of $20  bags pressed into my sweaty palm. I get home, pull out the foil, neatly  torn. I break the bottom off a Martell miniature. I make a pipe for the  rocks with the bottle, lay a strip of foil on the counter to chase the  brown, pause to reflect and regret that I don’t know how to fix, only  smoke, feeling inferior even in the manner of my using. I see the foil  scorch. I hear the crackle from which crack gets its name. I feel the  plastic fog hit the back of my yawning throat. Eyes up. Back relaxes.The bottle drops and the greedy bliss eats my pain. There is no girl,  there is no tomorrow.
Even as I spin this web I am reaching for my phone. I call someone, not a  doctor or a sage, not a mystic or a physician, just a bloke like me —  another alcoholic, who I know knows how I feel. The phone rings and I  half hope he’ll just let it ring out. It’s 4a.m. in London. He’s asleep, he can’t hear the phone, he won’t pick up. I  indicate left, heading to Santa Monica. The ringing stops, then the  dry-mouthed nocturnal mumble:
‘Hello. You all right, mate?’

He picked up. And for another day, thank God, I don’t have to”………..*Shared from Drug prevention network of Canada.blogspot.com *****

**PRETTY INSIGHTFUL & INTERESTING SHARE BY RUSSELL BRAND**

*MY NEXT STORY IS ABOUT *THE BAD BOY* HIMSELF, MR. EMINEM*
THIS story was on a Recovery site I follow, and who I did an Article for about my addiction to Gambling back in Feb 2012**

Eminem Comes Clean in His New Documentary About Drugs and Addiction

By Cheryl Scott

“When I took my first Vicodin, it was like this feeling of, ‘Ahh.’ Like everything was not only mellow, but I didn’t feel any pain,” says Eminem in his new documentary, How To Make Money Selling Drugs.  “I don’t know at what point exactly it started to be a problem. I just remember liking it more and more.”

In this straightforward film, the legendary rap star says the words all addicts must say if they want to open the door that says recovery. “I am Marshal and I am an addict,” pronounced in plain English, no rhythm tracks, no screaming fans, no flim-flam.

In this film Eminem comes clean about the severity of his addiction, the ferocity of his denial and how close he came to death. He began his use of Vicodin and Xanax casually, quickly becoming more impaired, and finally realizing how perilous his addiction had become.

He added Valium and other drugs to the mix, using more often, banning from his presence anyone who tried to warn him. One day, he mixed one—or two —too many drugs. He made it to the hospital just in time.

“Had I got to the hospital about two hours later, I would have died,” he tells the interviewer. “My organs were shutting down. My liver, kidneys, everything. They were gonna have to put me on dialysis. They didn’t think I was gonna make it. My bottom was gonna be death.”

A month after Eminem came out of the hospital he relapsed, but his love for his daughters saved him from what could have been a final downward spiral. “I’m looking at my kids and I realize, ‘I need to be here for this,’ ” he says.

Here’s where the story most strikingly differs from the average Big Star addiction saga. There was no rehab clinic, cushy or otherwise, no wise counselors, no group sessions.

Eminem quit drugs on his own through a detox program that left him incapacitated.

He describes the horrors of cold turkey detox in language familiar to anyone who has been through it. He says it took 24 hours a day for three weeks, during which he was wracked with insomnia, “not even nodding off for a f***ing minute.” And when it was over he was faced with the loss of his motor skills, talking skills, thinking skills — all his skills.

“It’s been a learning process,” he says. “I’m growing. I couldn’t believe that anybody could be naturally happy without being on something. So I would say to anybody, ‘It does get better.’ “

As any recovering addict knows, there is probably no misery worse than cold-turkey detox. The fact that a superstar would describe the experience so frankly is what distinguishes this documentary film. The fact that a superstar would even go through this agony is what distinguishes Eminem.

In the end, he shares the joy of recovering addicts the world over and reminds those who may have a similar ordeal in front of them that “it does get better.”  Simple concept, simply said. And that is what distinguishes Eminem’s story. It’s just possible that some addicts out there will be moved to give recovery a try. And that’s the best you can say about a documentary about one man’s addiction and a better man’s recovery. Filmmaker Matthew Cooke also interviews drug dealers, celebs such as Woody Harrelson and Russell Simmons, ex-cops, and people who have been wrongfully arrested for drug-related charges. You can see How To Make Money Selling Drugs when it opens in Los Angeles on June 28th.

 

– See more at: http://addictionrecovery.com/blog/addictions/eminem-comes-clean-his-new-documentary-about-drugs-and-addiction#sthash.IFXgSI6D.dpuf

***I DON’T KNOW ABOUT YOU, BUT I FIND IT VERY INTERESTING HE IS MAKING A FILM ABOUT HIS ADDICTION, RECOVERY, SELLING AND USING DRUGS. I HOPE IT IS DONE IN A BALANCED AND OPEN WAY………

I HOPE YOU CAN LEARN A LITTLE SOMETHING FROM THIER STORIES. JUST BECAUSE A PERSON MAY HAVE FAME, MONEY, AND MORE???…..DOESN’T MEAN YOU ARE HAPPY!! THAT IS WHY I FIND THESE TYPES OF INTERVIEWS FASINATING.  IT VALIDATES MY POINT OF HAPPINESS, MONEY, ADDICTION, LOOKING FOR ANYTHING TO FILL THE BLACK HOLE IN OUR HEARTS THAT ONLY ONE *MAN* CAN FILL…..OUR HIGHER POWER……

***MANY BLESSINGS IN YOUR OWN RECOVERY JOURNEY***
*AUTHOR, CATHERINE TOWNSEND-LYON* 🙂 🙂

*Recovery Spotlight on Life Balance*~~Part 2~~*Meet My Friend Peter*


AS PART 2 OF MY BLOG SPOTLIGHT OF *Life Balance*  here is a UNIQUE BLOG BY MY GOOD FRIEND PETER~(Piotr) GRZYWACZ….YES, by his name he is from Poland originally, and now lives in Toronto, Canada.
I asked him to tell me a little about his blog at: http://piotrgrzywacz1.blogspot.ca
and here in his own Words is how he explained what his blog is about:

“Our Site is Magical place of Wisdom and Healing. Run by Artists for all that wish to have quality time and relax from turmoil of daily life.
It is Pure Land of Love and Compassion. It touches different aspects of daily life and enrich them with beauty and inner understanding. Power of Our Site is that treat all human as equal and unique as they are in the Eyes of Higher Consciousness.”

Please Visit Our Site and enjoy all hard work that we are doing to bring everybody to the state of Omniscience.
Please Click Below and start you personal journey into land of Amazing!
Our Site -> Click Here  **HERE IS A LITTLE ABOUT PETER**

About me

Gender Male
Occupation writer-journalist
Location Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Introduction In case of introducing myself – please read my story on here named – Who am I ? Thank you. Peter
Interests All what comes with kindness and beauty – Woman!
Favorite Movies Good movies. All good movies. Passion of the Christ, The last temptation of the Christ, Little Buddha, Matrix, Gandhi, Battleship Potemkin, Violinist, Fiddler on the roof, Last tango in Paris, Cabaret, Grease, Most movies with Alain Delon, Bergman, Fellini, Woody Allen. Hair.
Favorite Music 60-70-80-90-00 – Adel Piaf, Anna German, Cohen, U2, Police, Pink Floyd, Miles Davis. Spiritual music of Tibet. Folk. Tango. Blues. Presley. Lennon.  Jazz and Classical music the most.
Favorite Books Joseph Conrad, Karol Wojtyla, Czeslaw Milosz, Edward Stachura, William Faulkner, William Shakespeare Alexander Dumas, Federico García Lorca, Ernest Hemingway, T.S. Eliot, Van Gogh.

Place where your journey into world of dream should start. This is Mother site if you know Mother you have a key to whole kingdom. First appearance – testing period.

How to use this site.

 
ATTENTION PLEASE: here is a new feature on this site. Whatever new will happen here during  the week you will find here. All the news from the site in one place!  Please Check that out first. Thanks
 
Wherever you will go here, always first check Home. Please press the icon with  the name “Home” first to learn how to enjoy fully this place.
Thank you.

In the right top corner you have a list of subjects.

If you will like any of the topic listed there you should press the one you choose.
It will lead you to the page where we  have gathered materials about each topic like: photos, articles and  videos etc. Each page will have father very clear and very simple  explanation how to use it and how to become interactive with whole system if you would like to do that.
If you will like what you will find on the particular page and you will wish to explore more in the bottom of  each page you will have another link that will lead you to another page  with more interactive features, more fun and more wisdom. You will be  able to explore higher and higher levels of whole system and choose what you like and as much as you like.
There will be some surprises there for you too. All kinds of gifts and bonuses – something very real that can  be use by you in your real life and benefit you and something just what  can be only useful in this cyber space. Longer you will interact with  the site much more you will gain every day.
That is just brief idea and needs a lot of work. However I am moving quickly to realize it.
I hope you will enjoy this site and have a lot of fun.
All the best for you.
Creator PG: ***HERE ARE THE PAGES TO CHOOSE FROM~~Always start from HOME**

Pages

 **I HOPE YOU’LL GO BY PETER’S BLOG AND ENJOY AN AWESOME, ONE OF
A KIND *RECOVERY~LIFE BALANCE EXPERIENCE!!**
GOD BLESS ALL!! *Author, Catherine Lyon* 🙂 🙂
 
 
 

*Recovery Spotlight on Life Balance~ Part One* ~~*Meet My Friend Grace Peterson*

*WHEN WE BEGIN OUR RECOVERY JOURNEY, WE NEED TO LEARN THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING LIFE BALANCE, as part of our recovery program and treatment. We also have to work our FEELINGS as well.
I add FEELINGS, because for me in my Gambling Addiction I’d learned a bad behavior of *Escapism* in my addiction.

Meaning, I’d zone out everything, people and things around me.  For example, If I were at a casino, in front of a slot machine, I’d be so focused and zoned out that a person a couple of seats down could have a massive heart attack, fall to the ground, and I would be so focused on that slot machine, I would even get up to help!!
Our 1st reaction of any NORMAL  person would be to go over and start CPR, or help the person.

This is how sick and *cunning* my disease was. SO, here are 2 very good friends, with 2 very Wonderful Blogs and  Ways to help restore some of those Hobbies we enjoyed before our addiction took over our lives, and a fantastic way to learn about how *Omni-Science* can help you achieve a more conscious SELF….*PART ONE*

*MEET GRACE PETERSON* Her Gardening Blog: http://gracepete.blogspot.com

**GARDENING WITH GRACE*
Gardening With Grace

          ****HERE IS A BEAUTIFUL SAMPLE OF HERE PIC’S and POSTS*****

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

It’s Like A Heatwave!

If YOU’VE WATCHED THE NEWS the last few days, you know that the western half of the U. S. is in the throes of a monstrous heat wave. It’s a little cooler right now because it’s 9:30 at night.
The thermometer in my shady pavilion. Argh!
Are you one of those gardeners who likes to try at least one (or ten) new plants each year? What am I saying? Of course you are. It’s one of the highlights of gardening, right? Anyway, one of this year’s newbies for me actually began when I saw it in bloom at a nursery a few years ago. It wasn’t for sale, just off in one corner looking pretty. I didn’t give it much thought at first but you know how something just plants (pun intended) itself in your head and won’t leave? Well this, my friends is what Impatiens glandulifera did for me. It’s a rare plant, at least in my world and I wasn’t even sure what it was called so how was I to investigate? But then last summer while I was at a park in Salem I spotted it growing!
Impatiens glandulifera or “Ornamental Jewelweed”  
I collected seed and tossed it in my purse and hoped I could get it to germinate. Meanwhile my four-hundred or so Impatiens balfouri plants continued to scatter their seed all over the garden. Nice, but you know how it is when you want what you don’t have. Human nature is such a silly thing.
Impatiens balfouri or “Poor Man’s Orchid” nice but I want more.

And I continued my infatuation with this lovely specimen from Fry Road Nursery.

Impatiens auricoma I think. Nice but not enough.
In April it became apparent that my collected seed was not going to germinate so I got on the horn which is code for Internet and started searching for seed, eventually finding a source and buying and waiting. Three packets of trial and error has netted me a total of seven plants. And below is a photo of the first bud just about to burst.
Look closely at the pre-born flowers.
Impatiens glandulifera can get quite tall, up to six and a half feet. I like tall plants. And now that the weather has warmed (understatement) the plants are growing at least a few inches every day. Below are a two photos.
There are naysayers out there who will probably scorn me for growing species Impatiens because “it’s a noxious weed” but that’s a bunch of hooey. I’m too anal and OCD to let plants get the upper hand in my garden. And besides, plants that I really, really like don’t grow like gang busters. They die. Or they die off. I grow Lythrum (Purple Loosestrife) and Buddleia (Butterfly Bush) but they aren’t escaping all over the place. But my neighbor’s bamboo has no problem crossing into my garden. Okay I’m stepping down from my soapbox now.  I just wanted to share my exciting Impatiens news.
Echinacea ‘Pow Wow Wildberry’ is another happy camper.
Another photo of my pink California poppies. The bees aren’t the only ones who love them.
Home Depot a few weeks ago I found this really cool Agastache. One gallon for $4.99. My camera doesn’t do it justice. The flowers are a deep red and gorgeous next to the catmint.
This spring, I bought Saponaria ‘Max Frei’ from Digging Dog Nursery. It’s blooming and lovely.
Although I’m not a fan of yellow,  I’m loving my Spigelia. Very cool blossoms.

In the foliage department, check out the leaves on my Artichoke plant.

A four-inch plant in April, look how big it’s gotten.
I also bought a Kale lacinato. It’s over three feet tall. So cool looking, don’t you think? That is, once I put down slug bait.
My Acanthus mollis looks better than ever. Too much shade for a bloom but who cares?
Digging Dog also offered Scutellaria suffrutescens ‘Texas Rose’, a plant I’ve wanted, like, for-ev-er! It’ just started blooming. I’m so NOT disappointed!
The entire plant is no more than a six-inch round ball but it’s so cool.
Finally I thought I’d share a photo of a visitor to the neighborhood. I photographed he and his brother from my car as I got home from work one evening. Fortunately they can’t venture into my backyard.
If you look closely you can see antler buds. Handsome fellow, isn’t he?
If you feel so inclined please visit my Pinterest page for lots of cool photos of species Impatiens. You might get hooked too. Then we really will have a noxious weed on our hands. But at least it will be pretty.
Stay cool everybody. Love to you all,

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On the Lighter Side

A HEARTY THANK YOU TO all of your for reading and commenting on the passing of “the mother” and my bumpy grieving process. Each and every comment warmed my heart. You’re such amazing, kind, compassionate people. You do a girl good. Thank you, a bazillion times!
In the wake of two very somber posts, I decided we needed to lighten things up this time around. I wasn’t sure what I was going to say until this morning when I saw this cartoon on my hubster’s page-a-day calendar.
How inventive is that? Come to think of it, I suppose this isn’t much lighter for all the men who might be reading this. Sorry guys.

Here’s hoping you have a splendid July 4th holiday. Smiles and hugs to you all.

*NOW YOU HAVE 2 LIFE RECOVERY HOBBIES YOU MAY WANT TO TRY YOUR HANDS AT??…..Gardening and Writing!! Everyone in recovery knows when we *SHARE* our Story with others, it is a very Powerful tool!!

**SO PLEASE GO BY AND SEE BOTH HER BLOGS TODAY, AND TELL HER *RECOVERY CATHERINE * Sent You!! GOD BLESS ALL!!

*GOD, GRANT ME THE SERENITY……..Serenity Photo Of The Day**

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE,
COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN, AND GRANT ME THE
WISDOM AND THE HONESTY TO KNOW AND SEE THE DIFFERENCE……..AMEN

**CATHERINE TOWNSEND-LYON**

Photo: Courtesy of *DaniellaJoe’s Blog: http://daniellajoe.me/

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OK……….THIS IS NOT SERENITY…..LOL……….

***THIS ONE IS………..****** 🙂

*Why Does The USA Celebrate The 4th Of July?*

Declaration of Independence                 HAPPY 4th OF JULY AMERICA THE BEAUTIFUL…….

So I had an interesting question asked of me last night on Twitter, it was from a young man who we follow each other and I totally forgot he lives in another country. I had ended my tweet reply to him writing, “Happy 4th of July”………..
Then he reply’s back saying, “what is 4th of July? as I live in the Caribbean and do not know what this is???…….We shouldn’t ASSUME everyone lives in America!…..LOL ….So hear is WHY we in the USA Celebrate *THE 4th Of July*…….very simple…..It is when we took back control of our Country, and fought the British to earn our *FREEDOM & INDEPENDENCE* of America’s shores……We also Celebrate &  HONOR OUR SOILDERS from Generation to Generation for fighting for our Freedom’s we enjoy today!

Extreme Fourth of July celebrations
It’s time to celebrate America’s birthday …..
 American military commander (and future US President) General George Washington (center) leads the Continental Army in the Battle of Princeton during the American Revolutionary War, Princeton, New Jersey, January 3, 1777                                                          

 American seamstress Betsy Ross showing the first design of the American flag to George Washington in Philadelphia
***SO GO CELEBRATE THE 4th OF JULY TODAY WITH GRATITUDE IN YOUR HEARTS, HUBLENESS IN OUR SOULS, AND ENJOY THE *FREEDOM* WE ARE HONORED WITH BY OUR SOILDER’S WHO FOUGHT FOR THEM!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL, AND MAY GOD BLESS AMERICA!!***AUTHOR, CATHERINE TOWNSEND-LYON….****An American flag blows in the wind as the U.S. Capitol and Washington Monument                                                          

The Statue of Liberty                                                          

Annette Funicello in the 1963 film 'Beach Party'**IF YOU CHOOSE TO CELEBRATE BY THE BEACH, THE MOUNTAINS, OR EVEN THROW A BACKYARD BBQ….BE HAPPY…BE SAFE!!***

 Macy's Fireworks display                                                           

Fourth of July fireworks in Boston